To wear my mums wedding ring?

[secretnuptials]

Getting married in the next few weeks , engagement ring came with matching wedding band. Unfortunately DP has lost it and although we have looked for it , it's nowhere to be seen.
Now I have my mums wedding band (she died in March) and although the marriage ended in acrimonious divorce , it is still just a gold band to me , which was my mums. No hard feelings involved there.
WIBU to wear it as the replacement wedding ring? My engagement ring is silver so not really matching!

No comment - I'm just freaked out by the advert that popped up immediately as I clicked on your thread...

🙄🤔 t'internet

That aside, I honestly think it would be fine. It would be nice to have something that belonged to your mum.

YANBU, of course.
Would you prefer a silver band, even if it doesn't match your engagement ring exactly?

I would prefer the bloody one which fits under the engagement ring and matches it, but a silver band would be better than gold but that would mean spending extra money.

In contrast DP's ring which is a big platinum number from a pricey jewellers is safe and sound as I was looking after it 🙄

Well, actually, in your shoes, I'd ask dp to buy a replacement.
You're hopefully going to wear it for a long time and although it's obviously not the end of the world, it's a little niggle you can do without, every time you glance at your rings.

Ideally your rings should be of the same metal. They will be rubbing up against each other for decades and if one is harder than the other it will gradually wear away at it.

I don't really want to have to buy a new one, money is a little tight at the moment.

Is your engagement ring silver or white gold? If it's silver it will be worn away by the gold wedding band over time. If it's white gold, so long as they're the same carat it will be fine. I quite like yellow and white gold mixed together.

I think I would get married with your mum's ring and then if the original one turns up, put that on the left hand with the engagement ring and wear your mother's on the right hand. Then you are still wearing the ring you got married with (in Spain and various other countries wedding rings are worn on the right hand anyway)

Good idea @WildCherryBlossom , we are going to have another really really good look tonight.

I've worn my Mum's since she died in 1997. I wear it on top of my own ring though.