To be sick of my dh’s slightly snarky passive aggressive comments? Told our middle dc has to clean his room before swimming. He wanted some help and my dh got up saying “your mum isn’t going to help is she!” For context we have three kids. 10,8,5. The youngest two both have autism and adhd and youngest also has some health needs. Our year with our youngest in mainstream has been awful. He’s only in school three hours a day and that only started in January. I attend all meetings. I’ve sorted the forms for dla and applied for both ehcps and filled in all the paperwork. I do all the appointments. I also work 15-20 hours a week at home. I’m out of the house about once a week for work. I’m doing the best I can. At nights my youngest won’t go to sleep and I have to sit on his bed for over an hour. He struggles with clothing transitions so in the warmer weather it’s me listening to him screaming because he can’t wear his thick winter coat. I feel depressed and low by the weekend and I’m close to burning out. My dh parents as if he has neurotypical children. Anything special needs related falls to me. His speciality is maths and both our older two struggle with it. When I mention to him he could do with spending some time helping them he replies “we do”. For the record I am no good at maths. I’ve even suggested a tutor which he said no to. I’m exhausted. My youngest is severely autistic. He smears poo, eats mud and needs watching. My dh gets at least two gym sessions a week and I’m doing my best but by the weekend I can just about function. But I think he thinks I’m really lazy. When In truth and I have tried to mention it I’m just mentally tired. How can I make him see this? It seems he pays me lip service and goes yeah yeah yeah.