for not sharing my life with my old world?

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and for getting annoyed with my close friends who are making a big deal out of this?

I moved to a new country, retrained, pretty much started a new life four years ago.

I told my close friends, but did not make a Facebook post about it, or post pictures, etc. I even created a new Facebook account which I use for people I meet here (uni/work), and have deactivated my old Facebook account.

A close friend met our former classmate and he mentioned that I've moved abroad. This former classmate told another former classmate, who is my acquaintance, but who I rarely talk to.

My two close friends are giving me flak for not telling this acquaintance about where I am. My retraining will be deemed controversial by people back home who do not have an idea how hard it is to pick up your career with all the regulations etc when you move from a country with qualifications that aren't recognised in the new country.

Also, to be honest, I was just stuck in my old profession basically out of family pressure. When I moved, I felt very free and pursued a path that I enjoy, which is a path probably deemed lesser than my former colleagues.

Even these two close friends made comments in the past about how it's a waste of my previous training, etc.

Part of the reason I don't talk about my new life is that I don't want to deal with questions and having to explain to people whose lives don't really get affected by whatever I do anyway.

I am now living a beautiful, quiet, serene and very happy life with my DH oceans away from home. I will soon start a job in my new field.

AIBU?

Not unreasonable at all, but why do you keep calling them close friends when it sounds like they don't understand much about you at all, or your way of thinking or living?
It sounds like you have a set up that works for you and your family, so I wouldn't give it another thought.

YANBU

why do you keep calling them close friends when it sounds like they don't understand much about you at all, or your way of thinking or living?

I guess I'm used to it because we've been friends for a long, long time and used to really click with each other. But it seems once I moved here, every decision I make is judged.

Your new life sounds fab, your close friends not so much. I think I'd have to drift away from them. Will you really be losing that much, apart from being judged?

I can't imagine 'acquaintances' in my hometown would care if I moved abroad, so your friends are BU for giving you flak, but equally, I can't see why you think it's controversial, unless you've retrained as an assasin.

Will you really be losing that much, apart from being judged?

Hmn, now that I think about it, probably not much. We've been friends for sooooo long though it's kinda hard to imagine.

I can't see why you think it's controversial, unless you've retrained as an assasin.

Maybe controversial is not the most apt word, but it will raise eyebrows and invite inquiries and comments. I don't really want to deal with that.