Not to have 'wedding transport'?

[ObiJuanKenobi]

Getting married soon, and have really shocked my grandmother telling her that we aren't having wedding cars / carriages..

I am staying at the reception venue the night before the wedding and our church is 170yards away spread over two roads on very flat pavement. DGM is insisting that I'm being ridiculous and I won't want to walk, partially down the high street, on a busy Saturday afternoon in my wedding dress with the world and his wife starring at me.
I said if it rains or whatever then my dsis has quite a flash car and could drive me from the hotel to the church if needs be.

DHTB is planning on driving from our house (5 minute drive away) to the reception venue and leaving the car there. He will have our very young children with him with their things for the day / clothes ready to drop off to my mum and wants the car to drive us home in with all of our stuff the next morning.

I think it's a complete waste of money to hire a wedding car to drive me essentially round the corner and for the sake of photos. She thinks I'm breaking away from tradition and being cheap.

Who is being unreasonable here?

I don't think you are being unreasonable at all. As long as you are happy with your wet weather provision, both to the church and back from the church to your reception venue.

Yanbu. Dsis's flash car sounds fun, and its nice to have friends and family involved instead of sitting around like stuffed shirts.

you are breaking with tradition but who cares if you are happy.

Could you have a family member on standby in case it does rain?

She's worried about tradition being broken by not having a car yet not the children before marriage. Some people are funny.

I wouldn't drive that far either, why pollute the atmosphere to go a couple of streets away.

I said if it rains or whatever then my dsis has quite a flash car and could drive me from the hotel to the church if needs be.

sorry I quite obviously skim read!!

I’d have LOVED a walk in my dress!

I have a v romantic vision of you receiving well wishes along the way!

@BoxsetsAndPopcorn she's wasn't thrilled at the pre marital sex either..

YADNBU. We did similar. Why waste the money?

Do what you want! It's your wedding
I too recently got married (2 small children in tow too!)
Local taxi firm to registry office for me. Whole posh wedding car thing not really my bag anyway...
Your day, your choice. DGM will get over it.
We had lots of other photo opps at the reception without the car!

I got married in central London and didn't arrange transport. We all walked and hailed cabs from the wedding to the reception. It was so much fun, we got loads of well wishes etc etc. It was one of my favourite parts of the day!
Your wedding. Do it your way.

It would be crazy to spend £££ on a car you don't need! Do it your way.

It can't be a very old tradition to have fancy cars, anyway.

I say go for it! I wanted to walk to the church and was overruled by my family as it wasn't traditional. Nearly 30 years later I'm still cross that I didn't stand my ground. I was carried to the same church for my christening and walked to church for my first communion so I wanted to walk for my wedding.

I didn't either.. saved a fortune and got a £7 taxi 😂 no one cared !

Yanbu. We aren’t going to either. I can think of better things to spend the money on tbh. I think that’s the difference when planning a wedding when you already have children to provide for.
If it is good weather the walk will be lovely and in bad weather your sisters car sounds like the perfect plans

It's a romantic little walk actually, someone's even done a painting of it

I'm glad people don't think we are missing out on something then, after her comments I started doubting whether we would feel we had missed out for the sake of not throwing money down the drain..

I do get irritated with people who convince themselves all sorts of silly things are essential “traditions” though

(I’d put wedding favours, over the top hen parties, only men doing speeches etc top of the “stupid tradition”list! )

@NeverTwerkNaked oh good you'd like us then, no wedding favours to speak of all the money has gone to making sure everyone will be happy, well fed and together.. local hen do meal out and a couple of drinks with a few good genuine friends and my mums doing a speech..

Hmm.. grandmas not going to be thrilled with some of that either.

I did the exact makeshift walk from the venue where I stayed overnight to the church. I don't think anyone noticed and saved us a lot of money.

We had no special transport ( a friend has a jag and he drove us) and no cake. Shock!!! (My mother went on about it for ages before. The week after, she asked my aunt what she thought of their being no cake. Aunt hadn't noticed.) It's a waste of money.

exact same

I think you should get the bus... It would be so cool

@ObiJuanKenobi.... I knew from your lack of transport we must have a similar approach to our wedding days . Yours sounds perfect

I walked home in my wedding dress from the wedding afterparty. It was really magical and one of my fondest memories. (Hem of my dress was unsalvageably dirty at the end of it of course).

yy wedding car total waste of money.

We had a25-mile drive to the reception venue but I still think we wasted £400 on the stupid car. Could have easily borrowed someone's fancy saloon.

OP is that Winchester?