To think this is pointless?

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Background I met him a few years ago when he was not considering transition. Now he is transitioning to a woman.

I am in hospital a ton at the minute having cancer treatment and while we talk she only wants to talk about herself or er... sext. I'm really not feeling sexting (I'm sure someone doesn't think I'm insane) and I really don't know what I'd say even if we were doing so. She refers to her male body parts with female names and god only knows what I would say wrong I'm sure.

Also apparently she feels like we have to sext because it will make me happy?

I am not sure I am being unreasonable but I'm being constantly told I am.

Sorry to bother you.

@TarragonChicken it's a tough one. We were going to date and then he turned up for the date in female clothing, actually more girls clothing and told me that this was the truth and I had to accept it or that was it. Unfortunately I was surprised which immediately was an issue. From there we didn't speak for a long time but she got in touch to get advice (not my area) and hung around to tell me the minutiae their life. Which is fine! I can say "cool" and "great" to purchases of underwear that's fine. But now this again.

I've answered you without actually answering a thing haven't I. So sorry

Do you know any women who behave as this person is doing?
You don't need a selfish creep like this in your life, especially while you are ill. Get rid quick.

Dump their sorry ass

And if they try and claim you’re being transphobic or whatever I wouldn’t get into a debate.

If you’re accused of being transphobic I’d reply ‘nope, just don’t fancy you or even like you whatever gender role you’re choosing to adopt- you’re a pointless oxygen thief’

As a person they suck. Selfish,sex obsessed,pest, self absorbed ,gaslighting twat. Their sex or identity is irrelevant. You don't have to put up with this from anyone .

Hope you're on the mend soon

Oh, is that true?

I always thought it was originally a term trans exclusionary radical feminists used for themselves, but was then rejected by some of them when it fell into a very negative repute.

Regardless, that's not the point of your thread OP. Her being trans is neither here nor there, she's a manipulative self-obsessed woman who's sexually harassing you while you're undergoing something extremely important and probably stressful. If she is using her gender identity to try and manipulate you, it's just further proof of her awful character.

Good luck Both with the treatment and getting this despicable person out of your lives.

*life, sorry.

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Thank you all so much again.

I've sent the message saying never contact me again. I really appreciate your help getting my useless brain straight. I think I was just very concerned that I was being discriminating.

There's no discrimination here. You are cutting her off because she's a dick,regardless of what she identifies as.

OP, read up on AGP. I’m afraid this man, who wants to be a woman, may be using you for their own sexual kinks.

You need all your energy for you at the moment. Can't you block this person from calling you?

Best wishes for your treatment.

@PositivelyPERF

I can't believe how spot on that is.

Seriously, you went on a date with a bloke (you thought) who turned up and announced he was a woman?? Why are you still in any sort of contact?

Well done OP! Best wishes health-wise too

Well done!
The person was behaving selfishly and nastily. That's what you objected to, not their gender identity, so you weren't being discriminatory.

I hope you can relax and get well again.

You don't sound like you like them or that they offer you anything so why not just tell them you don't want them to text you at all anymore same as you would with anyone giving you unwanted attention. I don't think the transitional process really has anything to do with it.

@PitterPatterOfBigFeet hi there. Yes I've ended the conversation. As I said in another reply I didn't know whether the hormones involved in the transition could be causing this which is why I mentioned it.

They are a sex pest. Block them on your phone and social media. Don't give them another thought. Tell staff at the hospital that they are not to visit you.

Do you have friends or family that are supporting you through your treatment?

It's not the hormones. Hormones don't cause sexual harassment. Sexual harassment is something people choose to do. It's never acceptable.

You’re having cancer treatment and this person is making it all about themselves and their needs.

Imagine my surprise.