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AIBU to let charity workers talk for 5 mins before telling them no?

83 replies

margiemoo · 29/06/2018 14:37

Charity workers regularly knock on my door asking for direct debits to be set up for their charities and they always speak for about 5 minutes before telling you what they want and giving you the chance to turn them down.
They obviously do this to make you feel bad and feel as though you really should sign up since you have let them talk for so long when you're actually not even interested and they always tell you your neighbours have been shockingly supportive and have all signed up as well.
I don't want to be super rude and shut the door in their face but I don't want to sign up either or let them waste their time.
Can anyone think of a way to politely decline the invitation to set up a direct debit when they're only 9 seconds into their long speech and haven't asked for anything yet?
Has anyone ever signed up for a direct debit with a charity who knocked on their door?

OP posts:
Sisgal · 29/06/2018 15:05

Yes it's best to cut them off before they start and just tell them "no thanks" and close the door on them or as PPs have said, just ignore them and don't answer the door

AvocadosBeforeMortgages · 29/06/2018 15:05

"I don't like tigers, so I'm not too worried if they all die"
"Surely white sticks are much more cost effective than guide dogs"
"Natural disasters are God's way of enforcing population control"
... and other similarly offensive statements are an excellent way of getting rid of them, pronto. All of a sudden their guilt trips are neutralised if you don't actually like what they're trying to help.

Also "I'm a Satanist" for the religious versions, which is highly effective at making them scarper.

Charolais · 29/06/2018 15:06

This made me remember; when I was a child (50s) our mum would have us keep low, away from the windows and quiet when people were going door to door down the street. “Pretend we’re not in” she told us.

RaptorInaPorkPieHat · 29/06/2018 15:08

I just tell them that I don't ever hand over details to people on the doorstep. It seems to get the point across pretty efficiently (more than my bloody sign does anyway). I never even give them the chance to start with their flannel.

BackforGood · 29/06/2018 15:10

YABabitU, yes.
I presume most of them only earn anything when they sign someone up, so if you have no intention of doing so, it is kinder to cut them off with a cheery 'No thanks' and let them move to someone who might be persuaded. It's not a great way to have to earn your living, why would you want to make it more difficult for them?

thetemptationofchocolate · 29/06/2018 15:12

Not at the door, but I was leaving a shop with a friend and one of them tried to pounce, asking if we were at all interested in (whatever the charity was about) and my friend just said, No, I'm not, and marched straight past.

Frogscotch7 · 29/06/2018 15:12

Avocados 😂

Good evening, I’m here on behalf of...

Not interested sorry, I’m very busy, goodbye.

paganmolloy · 29/06/2018 15:13

Had one last week. Stopped him mid flow to say I wasn't interested, I already gave to charities. He then went on to enquire as to which ones. Erm, none of your business mate. I absolutely hate folk thinking they can guilt trip me into giving more. I give lots, but it's my business as to who, how much, when. We have one wage coming into the house and the cheery chuggers who stop me in the street really piss me off no end.

I remember working with a guy who got incensed at the ones who came collecting round pubs. He would give them a right earful about how he gives to charity and that a pub is a place where he goes to chat, socialise and have a nice time, not to be bloody hounded into parting with more cash coz he looks bad if he doesn't. He had a point!

happypoobum · 29/06/2018 15:17

I never answer the door to anyone I don't know.

mumsastudent · 29/06/2018 15:17

these type of "charity workers" get paid on commission I always smile and say I don't do things on doorstep, thank you - they are doing the hard sell & saying things to make you feel guilty like: all your neighbours are doing it, don't get sucked don't feel guilty

January87 · 29/06/2018 15:22

I just tell them I already support X number of charities and cannot afford to support any others. They smile, thank me for their time and walk away.

OrdinaryGirl · 29/06/2018 15:23

I am a bit Hmm the methods deployed by some posters on here. I don't think there's any need to be rude if they are cheery.

I always say hello and give a big smile and then tell them 'I'm sorry but I'm going to need to stop you there. I already support XYZ charities and I'm not in a position to take on any more direct debits. [chugger usually weakly remonstrates] No, unfortunately it's not something I'm looking to do at the moment. But thank you for the opportunity. All the best.'

We had a terribly rude Salvation Army guy come round one time. His manner was so hostile I emailed the SA to let them know a dim view was taken.

pushit · 29/06/2018 15:26

I say I already support the charities i want to. Sorry, bye.

DryHen · 29/06/2018 15:29

I always say something like "I'm really quite busy at the moment but if you leave me one of your leaflets I'll read it and have a think about it". For some
reason they don't like that, the chugger for a cancer charity told me I was selfish for expecting them to waste money on producing leaflets instead of curing cancer Hmm

gamerwidow · 29/06/2018 15:30

As others have said you do say ‘sorry not interested’ and shut the door. My DH is awful at getting rid of them I came down from bathing DD once and he’d let one in and was making him a cup of tea while they explained about the charity.

gamerwidow · 29/06/2018 15:32

avocados method is very effective too. I was once asked ‘but don’t you care if children die’ I said ‘no I don’t like them’ and shut the door Grin

InfiniteSheldon · 29/06/2018 15:35

"Oh good grief no I give directly to charities of my choice and don't want to waste your time or pay your wages"
Anyone who got as far as lying about my neighbours wouldn't get such a polite response

LexieLulu · 29/06/2018 15:38

I just say "unfortunately I'm on maternity leave and my income doesn't stretch to charity donations right now" and they are usually happy with that.

I butt in and say it

Ps I'm not on maternity leave 🙈

couchparsnip · 29/06/2018 15:39

I open the door and if its a charity/sales/religion person then I stop them before they start. Smile, "Sorry I don't sign up to anything on the doorstep" and then shut the door does the trick.

Poloshot · 29/06/2018 15:39

'Don't come to my door begging, goodbye'

unintentionalthreadkiller · 29/06/2018 15:39

As soon as they start talking 'no sorry I give to my chosen charities throughPAYE. Close door.

troodiedoo · 29/06/2018 15:42

No thank you. Followed by "get a proper job you parasite" if they give me any lip.

LeighaJ · 29/06/2018 15:42

"ihatewineandsoaps

Just don't answer the door simple."

^This.

When they approach on the street I just say "No thank you." while briskly walking by.

Same thing I say to those people in shopping centre Kiosks who come up with some beauty product I don't want or need saying "Hello Beautiful Lady..."

Except when I'm saying "no thank you" to them I'm also thinking "Oh do fuck off please and let me walk in peace!"

dingdongdigeridoo · 29/06/2018 15:44

I don’t mind cutting them off mid-sentence to say ‘no thanks’. They’re not volunteers raising money in their spare time, they’re being paid to knock on doors. I don’t mind treating them the same as double glazing salesman or anyone else who cold calls.

troodiedoo · 29/06/2018 15:46

Asking them what percentage of your donation they get to keep can also be fun.