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So sick of shootings

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Nancydrawn · 29/06/2018 03:50

I live in America, and I am sick, tired, and scared of all the shootings that happen around me as a matter of course.

The ones like you'll read about in tomorrow's paperthe shooting in Marylandare frightening enough. I am fully aware that the chances of this happening to me are very slight, and I try not to be hysterical about it, but it does cross my mind when I go to a crowded movie or talk in front of a large audience of strangers (something required by my job). It's an instinct by this point; just as one example, I was at Jurassic World last week and it was enormously crowded, and there was a moment when I wondered if I had chosen a particularly unsafe seat in case someone came in blazing and clocked my exits, just in case. And I'm deeply saddened by my friends with small children who talk about the mass shooting drills they all do in school and the nursery rhymes they learn to keep quiet if someone's on the loose with a gun.

And it's more than that: it's the everyday violence. I know I'm privileged in this regard, because I worry about crossfire rather than living with this on my immediate doorstep (as is true for so many Americans), but there are so many shootings in every city in America I've lived in. Just this week, in the several towns (not even the cities!) that I've lived in, a person chased another through a local business, firing away, after a disagreement in the parking lot; a teenager got shot walking down the street; a bystander got hit during an argument gone awry; and a person waiting in her car at the grocery store got car-jacked with a gun. This isn't exaggerated, and it isn't even to mention some of the cities that I've lived in where there's an average of more than one gun murder a day (that is an even larger and more systemic series of problems).

I don't mean to give the wrong impression of America, which is a country I love and often gives me a sense of freedom that I never had in the UK. But it's something that I flat-out didn't think about when living in Britain, and it's playing so heavily on my mind here.

This is rather a screed: my apologies. But the shooting today, and the fact that the first victim named is the brother of an author I've long loved (and sort of felt like I know, as you do with those people whose work you know so well), has really shaken me up.

I guess, at my core, that I'm tired. I don't see any change happening here, and there's nothing that I can really do, not as long as money is so wrapped up in politics and people are so wrapped up in their guns. My feeling has always been that if the mass murder of primary school children didn't change people's minds, nothing really would.

So, I guess, AIBU to feel so hopeless about this? And can I just encourage any Americans out there to please, please think about voting for any change in this direction that they can in November? Even if you own a gun yourself, I hope you can see just how sick we are as a country right now.

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Candyflip · 29/06/2018 03:53

I am so sick of it too. I was sometimes even scared to send my child to school. We are leaving soon. Thank fuck.

Nottheduchessofcambridge · 29/06/2018 04:01

We are currently on holiday in Florida and don’t have the same feeling as you, but what I have noticed is the amount of gun-pushing advertising on every corner. Come shoot a gun here, fire a machine gun there. It’s like people are so blasé about them that they advertise them next to a thrift store or Starbucks.

marylandmary · 29/06/2018 04:03

Thoughts are with all those affected.

Nancydrawn · 29/06/2018 04:42

I was watching CNN tonight and this interview was playing and it resonated so much: fury and exhaustion and hopelessness.

It's raw and real and worth a listen. (Not to mention, you almost never get to hear an unbleeped "don't give a fuck" on American basic cable, which is notable in and of itself.)

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EatTheChocolateTeapot · 29/06/2018 04:56

YANBU, I lived in America for 2 years, a politician was shot in the supermarket where I used to do my grocery shopping. I didn’t go in that supermarket afterwards, just because it made me think about it.
It’s scary and Trump wasn’t even president then. I imagine the hate and tension has grown since.

RedDwarves · 29/06/2018 05:03

It’s scary and Trump wasn’t even president then. I imagine the hate and tension has grown since.

It really has nothing to do with Trump. Trump is following the same party line that Republicans (and Democrats, despite what they now say) before him have. The problem is with accessibility and culture.

araiwa · 29/06/2018 05:58

'No way to prevent these mass shootings' says only country in the world that regularly suffers them

FairfaxAikman · 29/06/2018 07:05

I'm not even in the UK and I'm sick of them.
And then any non US citizen who criticises it is accused of being anti-gun.

Thing is I'm not anti-gun personally I just don't think everybody needs one and certainly no one need an assault rifle, semi-automatic, automatic or handgun.
If they really are tools, as the gun lobby argue, a shotgun would suffice for most.

EmpressOfSpartacus · 29/06/2018 07:09

Tools? Confused Tools to do what?

FairfaxAikman · 29/06/2018 08:12

Well in our case hunting and pest control. Rabbit and pheasant are quite nice cooked you know.

EmpressOfSpartacus · 29/06/2018 11:50

OK. I can see that makes sense for people in rural areas but surely not in cities?

FairfaxAikman · 29/06/2018 12:27

Probably not, but looking at the bigger picture you will never get Americans to override the right to bear arms - so why not say to them "you can have a gun but only a shotgun"? Get the most dangerous weapons off the streets at least.

longwayoff · 29/06/2018 13:05

Poor Americans. These are dreadful times for you. I hope they improve and that some common sense will prevail. Nobody needs an assault rifle for, 'home use or hunting'. Keep your shotguns and handguns if you must but at least cut the numbers per massacre.

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