Abu to think its fine to wear slippers when out and about

[Bekstar]

Before we start a thread about people wearing Pj's and slippers to drop lids off etc. That's not what I'm on about here.
I'm in a wheelchair and can't walk anyway, some days I can't get my shoes on due to swelling so most the time expecially the summer I wear a pair of slippers. They are just a basic slip on slipper, nothing special. Never had a problem before.

Today however as I'm going into Tesco with DH and DS an elderly woman comes across in a very patronising voice looks at my husband and says "Could he not help you get dressed properly this morning" and pointed at my slippers. I mean as it is I was pretty peeved that ah e automatically thinks cos I'm in a wheelchair that my husband dresses me. But seriously what is the problem. I told her I wore slippers because my swollen legs didn't fit into a proper shoe very easily. She th en said "Get bigger shoes" but damn it doesn't work like that unless I buy a size 10 and tie them on to avoid them dropping off. Slippers are stretchy and there's room for my feet to swell inside them and for me nett to worry they will drop off if the swelling goes down. She thought me going out with slippers on was sloppy and a sign I wasn't looked after/looking after myself. Never been so peeved to be honest.

I mean I wouldn't turn up to school to drop DS off in Pj's like some parents do but I wear slippers for a practical reason and it's not as if it really matters anyway as I don't walk. I mean fair enough if I wore slippers to work on a building site or something ridiculous, but to sit on a wheelchair as They. Do my shop is hardly a problem surely.

AIBU or is she just OTT

I can see both sides. Yours feet are swollen so it’s comfy for you but it could also be a small sign of a career neglecting the person they are looking after by Just morning bothering to dress them properly. Would a type of flip flop not work well?

Beware, you are about to be asked by a string of posters why her being elderly is relevant....

YANBU though. She has no idea what your condition is. My mum has very limited footwear options due to rheumatoid arthritis and ends up wearing flip flops in winter. Her business!

She is ridiculous and rude. Smacks of 'does she take sugar'. Why address your husband instead of you! (Not that she had any right to say anything at all!)

A family member has very swollen feet too and is also in a wheelchair - she prefers socks. Slippers are better than that!

YANBU in the slightest, what business is it of hers?!

A swift "mind your own business" in a low flat voice while maintaining eye contact soon shuts people up. Raise an eyebrow if you can. Call them out on talking to the person with you while ignoring you.

There are rude buggers everywhere

Yanbu, but have you looked at Cosytoes?

Sorry, that should be Cosyfeet.

YANBU.

She is ridiculous, wrong, and lacks boundaries.

If you are feeling self-conscious, I can recommend Glerups (American brand). However, there's no need to be based on this.

Yanbu - to me that is extremely rude and no business of hers whatsoever.

My husband regularly goes out in slippers. He isn’t bothered about the opinions of others and most people don’t notice. I’m talking into town, to the petrol station, to the neighbours for a drink.
The children are horrified.

YANBU

If I saw you I would assume that you were wearing what was most comfortable, most practical, or just what you preferred to wear.

I constantly see teenage girls/young women in what I believe are called Sliders which look like slippers to me anyway (they’re fluffy on top!)

I think the phrase 'thank you for sharing that with us' would come in handy here.

What was the stranger thinking?

Chattymummy flip flops not an option missing some toes and ones I do have aren't the right ones for flip flops and you'd be able to see my feet in flip flops which I don't like. Also how does she know he is my carer, in fact I care for him due to hearing problems but that's irrelevant they aren't exactly scruffy slippers they are clean and tidy and I look clean.

Deaignstatement I really do t know why she addressed my husband because he can't hear her anyway I may be in a wheelchair but I'm his carer when it comes to communicating.
Duchyduke socks are good too but in summer I prefer slippers cos I have a few missing toes and that's more apparent when I have thin summer socks on, thicker slipper socks sometimes do work though.

Greenteaandchives I haven't but I'll check them out thanks

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Bloody woman, what a cow.

I forgot to say, I second Cosyfeet. I have several pairs of their shoes, boots, sandals and slippers.

wtaf?! It's none of her business - nosey cow.

I quite often see people in wheelchairs wearing slippers, and I just assume it's because their feet are swollen and slippers fit easiest. I'd never dream of drawing attention to it and making them feel bad about it.

Actually, scratch that--I forgot how stiff they can be at the beginning.

She is still nosy and v v U.

I feel your pain. I'm also used to people thinking I can't speak for myself if I'm in my manual chair and being pushed by someone else. It sucks, and it's rude, but it's pretty common.

Wear what works for you. In my case that's Fitflops, but it's all down to your own comfort. I would tend to be excessively polite with people like this, and a bit PA: "thank you so much for your concern, but this is my choice given the circumstances and, odd as it may look to you, it is by far the most practical option for me. Fortunately, I don't easily take offence." Smile sweetly and move on.

However, it's sometimes just easier not to attract the attention at all. Given it's the right time of year to find them in the shops, are espadrilles something that could be comfortable for you in the right size?

But because even though she may have meant well, she really, really needs to refine her approach.

‘Shut up, I don’t remember asking for your opinion’ be rude bank to them.

I think you should get a pair of these! Maybe then people won’t ask if your DP forgot to “dress you”.

it's really not her business what you choose to put on your feet.

I have noticed quite a few girls/women out and about in fluffy slippers, it seems to be a thing.

Wear whatever you want. Sorry to hear that you aren't in a position to wear lovely shoes. I'e been wearing Ecco since my twenties because I have rheumatoid arthritis. I'm in my fifties now and they've improved and my standards have lowered (but not enough to wear Hotter). I'd be a bit inclined to tell them to fuck off and die, but I'm far too polite.

Ugh, I have Arthritis and this weather means shoe wearing becomes even more difficult. Swollen toes and feet means I can maybe pop some flip flops on and then can't walk properly.

People can bugger off judging others.

Nosey and patronising.
Of course it's ok to wear slippers.