Still wound up after 4days.....of being wound up!

[MusicLover]

Oh to cut a long story short....but saying that Im useless at condensing any conversation tbh.

I went on a trip out to a farm with my dd & other children & mothers from dd's nursery last week. It was a really wet day so we spent the majority of the day indoors in the tea shop.
As you do you get into comversations about other people & their children as well as talking about your own.
One of the mothers(mum1) has gone straight round to another mother(mum2) & said that I have slagged off her children & basically shit stirred about me.
To make matters worse (mum2's) daughter is on & off friends with my step dd. My Step daughter has been in tears over it loads of times.
So the whole thing has been blown out of proportion because mum2's daughter has give my step dd grief about the fact that I have supposedly slagged her off.
Tbh this isnt the 1st time its created a whole load of bitching but I am just fed up.

I had a word with my step dd & informed her of how this mess started. The following day my step dd explained to mum2's dd what I had said. Within a few mins I had mum2 on the phone telling me to have a word with my step dd because she made a bee line to start with her dd. So I really did give her a peace of my mind & told her what I thought. She said she didnt want to fall out & I said neither did I, I was only gettin off my chest how I feel. But what I did tell her was...if my step dd was my dd I wouldnt let her hang around with mum2's dd.

But I still feel wound up about it as it started 4 days ago but was still going on in conversation etc tonight (with my dh & step dd's mum) She is ok about it all, we get on well btw!

Sorry to Rant but had to let off more steam.
Sorry also if it seems all muddled up.

If I was Mum2 I wouldnt speak to you either IMHO

dont really understand the whole ethos of as u say talikng about other mums and their children as you do i dont

maybe dont sit in the cafe talking about other people/theeir kids/etc it causes upset it inevitably creates bad feeling. keep it general i noffensive stuff

best u can do is apologise and maybe consider that if u chose to spend time together that the companionship and support may be of value...

I would expect it to be discussed for more than 4 days, you have obviously hurt people's feelings by your comments.

The General converation was about children & girls being bitchy tbh. We were talking about the age that girls become this way etc.. I also talked about my step daughters esp my eldest one (now 17yo) when she went through a bitchy period with the younger sdd (now 13yo). I just mentioned also that My step dd & mum2's dd had there fair share of it too.
Yes everyone does talk in this way,it is no crime & nor is it slaggin off others children. But obviously its hard to get this accross in type & explain it different.

The real villain in all of this is the motormouthed trouble causing Mum1. I'd knock her friggin' block off

if it was a general talk about parenting, and that horrible stage that children go through, i don;t see what harm.empathisisng with parents by saying, ' yes, my dd went through a terrbile phase of XYZ."

that is differnt to saying "she is a bitch' or a direct insult

...i think if mum1 was so offended, rather than telling tales to mum2 `9 very childish imo) she should have said to MusicLover , ' I don;t like the way this convo is going, can we talk about something else?', rather than not saying anything and then telling tales

I still wouldnt use other peoples children as an example - I would hate to overhear somebody say something negative about my DD - when Im not there to knock their block off

well, if one of my friends is worried or anxious about something, i might say, 'well, DS did XYZ , so to deal with the problem, we tried ABC, and it worked..." far better IMO, than pretending our children are perfect!