This could be long but I'll try to make it shorter. Ds is 5 and in reception. He has some sensory /autism issues ongoing watch and wait now after full assessment as academically he is doing fantastic. He is quite shy and struggled to make friends but ended up with a few friends in his class. One boy is very very boisterous, I have made friends with his mum and I like her a lot. We have play dates out of school but each time it results in my ds being hit, often repeatedly by this boy. The mum does not do very much. Apart from a half hearted telling off (sometimes nothing at all if she hasn't directly seen it happen).
My ds has been telling me lately that this boy has been trying to stop him playing with the other two friends that they have at school. I have noticed that he's more reluctant to go to school lately and this is upsetting because he had recently come out of his shell a lot which was a big achievement for him. I spoke to the teacher yesterday to voice my concerns and she said she would try to encourage him to play more with another boy that he naturally seems to like playing with, this other boy incidentally is also quite shy and does not seem to have made a firm friend. So yesterday I gave my number to this other boys mum so that we can arrange a play date, she is very happy about this for the sake of her boy. But why do I feel like I'm doing something wrong? I am worried about telling my friend that we are going to see this other boy at the weekend, but I do not want to offend her by saying well your child is always hitting mine! For the record I have not discouraged my ds to play with the first boy at all, I will let him make his own friends. But aibu to try to encourage a new friendship if it might end up cutting the old one out?