to not know how out get a teenager out of bed in the mornings

[brizzledrizzle]

Just how? Every morning he won't get out of bed and when he does he won't get ready on time. He can't get to school otherwise as it's too far to walk or cycle to.

Now I've said I won't be taking him to anywhere he wants to go in the evening unless he's ready on time.

How do you get your teens out of bed?

OP how far is too far? Is the school over 10 miles away? Is there a route without dual carriageways and motorways?

OP how far is too far? Is the school over 10 miles away? Is there a route without dual carriageways and motorways?

When teens know that the school bus driver won't wait for them they make damn sure they don't miss the bus. If they are late for mum she moans but will still wait. You need to re-set expectations, be very clear that from x date you leave the house at x time either with or without him. If he has to do the long walk/cycle a few times he will probably start getting up on time.

@JustLikeBefore

I know, this is why I said OP needs to nip it in the bud now before it gets to that stage.

I posted it because I think the advice to leave his to his own devices, is risky advice.

@JustLikeBefore

I know, this is why I said OP needs to nip it in the bud now before it gets to that stage.

does this law apply to teenagers too, who should be able to wake up by themselves by their age?

Yes it does. There have been cases of parents being jailed when their teeneage children refused to go to school. Here's one example, but there are plenty www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/crime/7597309/Mother-jailed-after-15-year-old-daughter-plays-truant.html

Sorry, my internet connection messed up and didn't post properly. Here is what I said in full...

@JustLikeBefore

I know, this is why I said OP needs to nip it in the bud now before it gets to that stage.

I posted it because I think the advice to leave his to him own devices, is risky advice. He may buck up and start getting up, but if he doesn't then what does OP do? The situation gets worse and worse. Maybe if he knows his mum could get into trouble because of it, it might help.

OP should also be aware of the full facts.

you have to let them grow storm most teens only need be late/ miss the bus a couple to few times, then the get it.

If they don't, then is time to look at why, and also support them in getting them there.

Either way it shouldn't result in them missing school to the extent of prosecution.

It's 8-9 miles down a country lane which is notorious for being one of the most dangerous roads in the area and a dual carriageway.

Maybe take him to the doctor if he's so tired? There might be a physical reason rather than sheer laziness. Better to get it ruled out and it will force your son to talk to another adult about it.

Make a plan with him and stick to it whether it is

• he is totally responsible but you will equip him with suitable alarm clocks etc
• he wants more help from you in the form of an earlier or repeated wake up call, an early opening of curtains or a daylight alarm clock
• you take away priviledges as per your plan
• you go without him if not ready
• or something he comes up with that is sensible

He’s not lazy or ill, I imagine, its just that the circadian rhythms of the vast majority of teens are set to Night Owl, some more so than others. Imagine getting up jet lagged week after week . However, he does have to, so find your compassionate boundaries or support and work out a plan.