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Original poster

Lodger/no deposit

48 replies

Sopisssedof · 28/06/2018 05:40

posted on property but posted here for traffic

I've just had a lodger leave for mh issues (suicide attempt). When they came back from hospital I took their keys immediately and we then arranged for them to collect their stuff. I packed up their stuff and they're gone.

Their room is disgusting. Stains on the carpet and stains (curry?) On the bedding.

I didn't take a deposit. What is my recourse for the damage?

OP posts:
Scoogle · 28/06/2018 05:43

YABU

LoveAtFirstSight · 28/06/2018 05:43

If you didnt take a deposit then you have no recourse. Thats what its for.

tuckingfypo · 28/06/2018 05:43

So this person tried to kill themselves, and you kick them out and you're worried about a few carpet stains...?

Wow, I think a little perspective is needed....Hmm

PremierNaps · 28/06/2018 05:46

Wow you're a peach! Remnant tries to commit suicide so you kick him out.

You don't have any rights you didn't take a deposit and that's what it's for.

Original poster
Sopisssedof · 28/06/2018 06:29

Regardless, there is damage.

OP posts:
PremierNaps · 28/06/2018 06:43

Regardless you didn't take a deposit therefore not entitled to anything.

Stains on the carpet- Hire out a carpet cleaner they aren't that expensive

Stains on bed/sheets - vanish even on the mattress.

sparklepops123 · 28/06/2018 06:46

Be grateful they didn’t cut their wrists and leave blood stains on the carpet. Seriously have some compassion

KinkyAfro · 28/06/2018 07:28

This has got to be the most mean spirited post I've ever read on here

wowfudge · 28/06/2018 07:31

So the poor person is made homeless, on top of everything else. OP please take a long, hard look at yourself and don't be so hard hearted.

Discotits · 28/06/2018 07:35

Small claims?
Personally, I wouldn’t persue it given the circumstances. I’m surprised that people are outraged that your lodger has left, I’m not sure many people would want that responsibility. Also, did the OP ‘kick them out’, or have they moved somewhere more suitable, like their family?

EveningHare · 28/06/2018 07:37

You didn't take a deposit, so what do you think you can do? Small claims I guess, but a lesson learned

Did they want to leave, or did you kick them out? I'm no expert, but was it done legally? Seems heartless in the circumstances

Mountainsoutofmolehills · 28/06/2018 07:40

probably it's time to get that carpet washed if it's stained. Do you think the room contributed to the MH problems? Maybe the room could do with a perk up....... You sound like the land lady from hell.

wowfudge · 28/06/2018 07:41

@Discotits - the very words the OP has chosen to use suggest she decided to end the arrangement with no discussion.

Original poster
Sopisssedof · 28/06/2018 07:42

I wanted them out. They got back from hospital late at night and I asked them to leave and took their key the next morning. I boxed up their things and they collected them a few days later.

OP posts:
WhiteCoyote · 28/06/2018 07:43

You can’t (and shouldn’t) do anything. Small claims will laugh at you.

Next time take a deposit Hmm

Butterfly1066 · 28/06/2018 07:44

Surely this is a troll
No one is this much of a cunt

hazell42 · 28/06/2018 07:45

Wow. What a bitch. I hope karma gets you

TheLionRoars1110 · 28/06/2018 07:46

You didn't take a deposit so there is little recourse. Small claims court but I doubt you'd get anywhere.
Try the diy suggestions mentioned above.
Hope tenant is ok and stains can be removed.

TheHodgeoftheHedge · 28/06/2018 07:46

That is the point of taking a deposit so, tough. Not that I feel much sympathy for you in this circumstance and actually hope you're a troll :(

Original poster
Sopisssedof · 28/06/2018 07:47

Look I'm not a troll. Things were getting really bad. They were drinking to manage their 'anxiety' and not leaving their room for days at a time. I didn't want that in my home. Doesn't make me a bad person.

OP posts:
Kidssendingmenuts · 28/06/2018 07:49

You have no legal stance here to be honest. You should of got the deposit when he moved in. Secondly he could turn around and sue you for illegal eviction as you haven't given him notice. Lesson learnt from your cold heart me thinks. Hopefully this never happens to you or any of your family

Ginmakesitallok · 28/06/2018 07:49

No - but chucking them out the day after a suicide attempt was pretty shitty, and considering ways of chasing them for money isn't a particularly nice thing to do.

Shumpalumpa · 28/06/2018 07:49

Hope you refunded any advance rent they paid.

They should countersue you for giving zero eviction notice.

fairiedemon · 28/06/2018 07:49

I wouldn’t have gone about it in the same way as the OP but I would also ask a lodger in this situation to leave. It’s very sad that their mental health is in that poor a state but I couldn’t voluntarily live knowing if I would be coming home to a dead body day after day. And if anyone cares, I cared for my terminally ill mother through to the end, so despite it being my choice, I do know exactly what it’s like to live like that.

Shumpalumpa · 28/06/2018 07:51

Too early in the morning for this shit.