To feel annoyed? ... oh I know i bloody am, just ranting

[snowleopard]

Twas DP's birthday a few weeks ago and DS and I made him a cake - it fell apart a bit and was decorated by DS (pink icing, sweets everywhere, wonky candles etc) but it was actually a very nice cake as well as being heartwarming and lovely etc.

Well cue birthday evening and DP is having his mates round (we had had other bday celebrations earlier and lunch out) - one of them brings his girlfriend and she has made this uber-posh cake which totally outshone my cake. Now I'm not a housewifey cake-proud type at all but it was embarrassing, we were the only two women there and it felt like some kind of village cake contest etc, DP went on and on about how fab her cake was, I seethed and felt upset on behalf of DS (though he was in bed! )

Well tonight he is going out with his mates to a gig, I was invited but felt like a night in. The same woman comes round this evening to get a lift with my DP (her boyfriend is in the band) and they sit in the kitchen and DP starts up again about her FRIGGING CAKE and how it was so amazing and the best cake he's ever tasted, blah blah blah de blah. Lying bastard! Meanwhile I am taking out the bins, doing various chores etc and our friend only turns to me to ask me some polite questions about DS. These friends are a lot younger than us, oh also did I mention this woman is stunningly beautiful and stylish, and I just felt a thousand years old, boring, frumpy, furious with DP, FURIOUS with myself for getting competitive over a CAKE and just basically a complete and utter saddo.

I don't think there's anything going on or anything, I don't not trust DP, but I do think he probably fancies her a bit and was sucking up to her.

Sorry this is so long and blimmin pointless and trivial, just needed a rant, if anyone wants to join me in a glass of red wine I'm off to get it.

she is just so tryign too hard... yuch

Um.. my SIL is a fantastic baker. And would think nothing of knocking a cake up in a few hours. She would have went the whole hog if she knew before hand they were going to someones birthday!

I was in her house a few weeks ago and she had this beautiful cake sitting on the worktop. It was the shape of a pink handbag with a flower draped over it. I asked if someone had ordered it. She said no, she was going visiting to a friend of her dh's & she knew it was his wifes birthday, she she baked it for her!!

Maybe the lady is just a bit like my SIL? She is lovely, skinny & blonde, can chat to anyone, but would never in a million years dream that she had offended you!!

I think that my SIL just gets pleasure out if baking. They have no kids yet & she says it helps her pass the time.

Do you think maybe she thought she was being nice & hadn't even thought that she would offend you??

[I'd actually be pissed off at Dh for keeping on commenting on it ]

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I still think she wouldn't have did it purposefully to offend you

Lovely idea baking a cake for the wife
Very weird to turn up with one for someone else's husband (unless asked of course - could someone have suggested it to her?!)

same here firefly x-post!

I'd go mad! I'm very territorial with DH's stomach and even get jealous when he raves over cakes women in work have made!

I'd make her feel awful and say oh DS cried because your cake was prettier and he wanted Daddy to like his more...but then I have no shame!

fillyjonk I KNOW! How can DS's pink collapsed cake not be the most beautiful cake in the world to DP???

However I'm not sure DP did actually prefer her cake or was just being super-smarmy.

FFF2, I do think she is sweet and innocent and meant well - she may even have been being extra-thoughtful and thought I wouldn't have time or something (but if that's the case she could have checked). I am more annoyed with DP than her though.