AIBU to want to change DD's school?

[wildsummerdreams]

Hi all, apologies as I've already posted this on Education. But I think I'll get more replies here.

My daughter is being bullied at school, by 2 other girls in her class. In the past, last year, one of them asked her to bring money into school. I talked to the teacher and it seemed to get better. But now these two girls are constantly putting down my daughter (emotionally) and calling her stupid, laughing at her and trying to hurt her. My daughter is becoming insecure, nervous and anxious, asking me to homeschool her everyday. The other girls also talk a lot about sex with great level of detail, which my daughter finds disturbing. We're talking about children 9-10.

What would you do in my case? Is it reasonable for me to ask for these girls to be moved to another class? What if the teacher or headteacher refuse or can't do anything? I'm thinking of changing her school, but it's a shame because she also has friends there.

Any advice greatly appreciated. Thanks.

It's always worth asking, I'd see if you can separate them first before moving school I think

My half sister (10+ years younger than me) got badly bullied at primary school. The school were useless at dealing with it, and in the end my mum ended up moving her to a different school at the start of year 4/5 (can't quite remember which).

It was the best thing for her. She settled in so well to the new school, and made so many friends there who she's still friends with today now she's in sixth form.

She didn't really have any friends at her original school though, because the bullies wouldn't let anyone be friends with her.

If your dd does have friends, it may be worth trying to get the school to act.

I would get firm with the school and have a meeting with the relevant head of key stage and ask what is going to be done. If nothing is done ask to see head.

I would say to yourself that if you are still in this position in 4 weeks then you will enrol her somewhere else for September. She can keep in touch with friends and you can have them round to play etc.

If you have relayed to anyone at the school that two 9/10 year old girls are talking about sex in very specific detail to your daughter, the school should be taking this very seriously and it should have been written up as a safeguarding concern and Parents should have been contacted.

Bulling concerns also need to be addressed: same 2 girls picking on your daughter regularly.

You need to put your concerns in writing. To the head and the governors. Insist on a written response. I believe they have 10 working days.

As @BewareOfDragons said the fact they are so obsessed with sex sets alarm bells ringing for me and could be a safeguarding issue. Importantly though now is the time of year to make sure they are not in the same class next year please ask for this to happen- assuming you have more than one class per year.

Get her out of there. Please. It sounds like the bullying is having a really horrible effect on her. Defo change schools, if necessary pull her out and 'home-school' her for the remainder of the term

Hi all, after a brief talk with the head and seeing that they can't really take these girls out of school, we're thinking to homeschool our daughter for the rest of the term (1 month) while we apply to the other school for her to start in September.

We're totally new to the process, so I'm gathering information about the process. If anyone can help or advise about time frames, things to consider etc it would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.