To be pissed off that I can’t control my emotions

[Momsnatter]

I’m 45 and happily married. Maybe once or twice in the past 20 years I developed a bit of a crush on men at work.
Nothing I wanted to act on but the sort of stuff that gets inside your head.
Anyway, thought I was well past all that but now a new guy has started at my work who reminds me very much of my youth ( for various boring reasons I won’t go into).
He must be 10 years younger than me, I love my husband and don’t want anything to happen, but now I just dread seeing him in case I make a fool of myself.
I’m not even enjoying this. I’m really annoyed with myself.
Is it just me that gets like this?
Why can’t I just CHILL???!!!

Not just you... maybe it's our age? I'm terrible for having inappropriate dreams about people at work too

I say stop beating yourself up. You're human. You find certain people attractive as we all do, and that in no way detracts from how much you love your husband. I think if you just relax and allow yourself to enjoy the silly fantasies that pop up in your head, you'll realise how minor these occasional crushes really are.

But are you OK with it? I wouldn’t mind if I could treat it for what it is - a non important crush. But I just get my knickers in a twist about it. I’m not a teenager anymore!

That was to Framey. Yes totally agree aquamarine. Need to get a grip