to be quite upset!

[pinkyandthebrain6]

I've not had a great year. I was made redundant a few months ago, had to pull out of a house purchase because of it, and felt generally quite low. I have suffered with anxiety my whole life and this has made it worse than ever. I'm on sleeping tablets and I've lost all my confidence.

I started a new job a month ago, but it's not quite what I thought it would be, not that I can be picky. I have tried very hard, but it's quite cliquey and I haven't been accepted. My manager told me people think I'm unsociable, which I think is unfair as I always make conversations with people go out of my way make an effort. I think they just don't like me?

She also said another manager thinks I won't be able to do the job. So far I haven't been doing all the elements of the job as I'm new, but this has really knocked my confidence even more and I think maybe she's right. I feel they've already decided to get rid of me and I don't know what to do - do I hand my notice in to avoid getting sacked, or wait until I'm given my P45?

Sorry you feel like that. Could you suggest a team night out? Or ask your boss for help integrating into the team?

You sound like your mood is (understandably) low. Speak to your doctor for maybe some short term antidepressants to help you have the energy to work towards some solutions e.g. an improvement plan at work.

I'm really sorry you feel like that it does sound tough. I definitely wouldn't quit but if you feel you might not be kept beyond your probation you could start looking for jobs in the mean time. (It's better to be in employment when you apply). From what you've said though your current situation sounds salvageable. Perhaps you could ask your manager for specific feedback and redouble your efforts to be sociable with your colleagues.