Did I overreact? Argument outside school parking related

[Wishfulmakeupping]

I parked a couple streets away from
School got back from picking dd up to find a car parked against mine the reg plates and bumpers touching/pressing against each other.
Got kids in car and then started to take pictures of the car in case of damage this point school Mum kids in tow wanders over ‘what’s the problem?’ I think point out exactly the problem is and she is just so blasé is ridiculous. She then reversed and showed me there’s no damage as no glass on floor. Still no proper apology. I did get a bit worked up and told her she was ridiculously rude and any other person would have apologised and been embarrassed in the end she did apologise a few times but honestly she pissed me off to suggest that I’d overreacted about the whole thing?!

Will be awkward when I see her at school gate tomorrow morning

No I think I’d be the same as you!

Why did she have to apologise a few times? I get she should have apologised straight away because she’d parked too close and you got angry because was blasé.

Yes you overreacted, you know you did. She apologised, I wouldn’t have as no damage done. She would have known before she got out her car if she had bumped yours and if she was a dick would have driven off. Sounds to me like you gave the poor woman both barrels, prob infront of kids...... She’s probably one of these relaxed, happy mums enjoying the good weather off to pick up her kids. Then bam she meets a grump. I would apologise tomorrow and say you were having a bad day, try and smooth things over. Really have a think why did you get so worked up over a parking space/car.

There was no damage, therefore no harm done and no need for her to grovel. School run parking does seem to bring out the worst in people.

Why should she have apologised?

What if she hadn't strolled up when she did to the pp saying no harm How was OP meant to get out?

If you can't drive you shouldn't be allowed on the road. I'd have been pissed off to OP.

I think it sounds like you over-reacted. I would try to apologise to her for getting so angry. Of course you can park bumper to bumper without causing damage. You can cause damage and you were wise to check she hadn't.

It's rude if she's blocked you in, but it's not a problem if you can get out.

Did she block you in? if so then yanbu. If not then I can't see why you are getting so worked up as there was no damage. I personally wouldn't park with my car touching another but it doesn't sound like she rammed into the back of yours. If it was an automatic she probably stopped, put it in park and if on a slight hill it may have nudged forward a fraction when she released the brake. Mine does that sometimes.

Hmmm i'd like to see previous posters real life reactions if someone parked bumper to bumper to their car. I bet we'd see a slightly different response. YANBU.

I'd be majorly pissed off. I'd be so embarrassed and apologetic if I parked so badly that my car was actually touching another and I hadn't noticed.

I think bumpers are sort of for bumping, if you weren't blocked in i would have let it go, it's really not a big deal is it?

I had this, the other driver was not only pushing against my car but was about 2 feet over the front of her parking space. Hers was a big Volvo mine a small hatchback so well within my lines.

I waited for her to come back and she actually said to me "are you sure I wasn't here before you and you reversed into me?"

I was spitting feathers, fortunately (for her) there was no damage. Cant beat a plastic bumper

Sounds like you overreacted, yes. You expect a 'proper apology', really? For a bad parking? Christ

How was OP meant to get out?

By driving away from the other car? She doesn’t say she wAs blocked in, just that she was worried about damage.

As any automotive engineer would tell you, damage even from a light bump is not always immediately obvious. You don’t know what has been shunted about on the chassis, electrics or mechanics of the vehicle. The damage may not manifest itself for a while; you may even be driving around in an unroadworthy, possibly dangerous, vehicle afterwards.

It’s not “bad parking” or “bumper to bumper parking” it is gross ignorance and blatant disregard of someone else’s property.

So yes OP, you are being unreasonable - I would have ripped her head off.

You would have ripped her head off? Jesus, calm down!

Accidents happen, and touching number plates is not likely to have caused any damage whatsoever. No need to raise your blood pressure over it.

Nah, she was passive aggressive. Some people do this because they are have no respect for others or their property, or just to dare others to be pissed off by their petty acts of bullying/ dominance.

A decent person would have immediately said sorry they didnt realise etc and check for cracks.

Wankers minimise and gaslight. YWNBU OP, except in expecting her to be a ashamed of herself.

Modern cars with reversing cameras can see exactly what is going on at the boot end, and can carefully ease back till there's half a mm or less between the bumpers.

I've occasionally parked with barely a few microns between me and another car where there is clearly enough space for two cars to park on the road between two driveways but they have positioned themselves selfishly so they overlap the half way point and have too much space in front. Then it's a choice between either parking bumper to bumper or letting the nose of my car get a bit too close to comfort to the opening of the driveway - or letting that person's selfishness actually reduce the number of parking spaces by doing neither. If I can confidently and safely do option 1 with no harm done and the are no other spaces nearby I don't think it's wrong.

I think you did overreact. There was no harm done. Obviously she would have been genuinely sorry if some harm had been done, but I think she probably apologised out of general self preservation given thar she was being screeched at by someone clearly a bit unstable who thought they deserved an apology for really not that much. It's more important to get away from the crazy person safely than to win an argument in the street, as a rule.

Walk to school instead.

I don't see the issue if there was no damage. Obviously she's putting herself at risk of causing damage which she would have to pay for but since she didn't I don't see the problem.

OP like you I would have been narked and think she was rude