To feel sad about this comment...

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Today in my Slimming World Group, stood in the que, my DS 2 pretended to give something to the lady in front of me. She turned to me and apologised for reaching to take the pretend item, playing along with him, because she didn't ask me if it was ok first. She said she has had a few Mums be funny with her in the past when playing along with their child.

The world has gone mad.

Can you explain a it more. This sounds a bit disjointed. Someone was playing some sort of game with you child? Is it a baby in a buggy?
Did you think it was sinister?
I don't understand

Oh that is sad. What a world to live in. Children learn from everything around them and this makes me really mad.

lola The Op's son pretended to give the lady something and she played a long without asking permission as some mum's had got funny with the lady before for not asking.

I don't know what's hard of that to understand.

No the world hasn't gone mad. What was mad was a world where children were routinely abused and the abuse was ignored/covered up. Yes people are a bit over cautious now but that's a damn sight better than it was.

Yes, that would make me feel a bit sad too, TBH.

OTOH, there are very real reasons everyone is so extremely careful verging I’m paranoid now. But responding to a child’s game in full view of their parent should still be okay.

There is a world of a difference between abuse being covered up and someone playing with a child whose parent is present.

Can you explain a it more. This sounds a bit disjointed. Someone was playing some sort of game with you child? Is it a baby in a buggy?
Did you think it was sinister?
I don't understand

No. OP’s child offered the woman in the queue a pretend item. Woman responded to child appropriately then caught herself and apologised to OP for not asking first.

OP is saddened by this level of caution.

In Morrison's cafe last week an older man started chatting to ds 3 while I was sorting out the table. His dw told him off quite sharply!
I said I was more than happy for him to befriend him. Ds has no dps and it's nice to encounter older generations imo.
Sad society unfortunately.

The only time I get a bit weird and pull my dd back a little is when strangers start to touch her, like Stoke a cheek or hold a hand.
But other than that I love the interaction, especially with older generation. It's such a good experience for the children to learn from

I get where the other lady was coming from. We share a garden and do and I were in the back having a nice coffee and enjoying the sun, one of our neighbours had children and they came out and were playing. The girl was doing cartwheels /gymnastic type stuff and told me and dp to watch, we did then clapped 'oh 10 out of 10' joking bits then continued our conversation. The mother heard us and then made the children go in. It was a bit weird really. We didn't know them as they had recently moved but I thought it was a bit of an overreaction.

I get people being cautious but this, to me, is going too far. My DS was right next to me, he is a friendly kid and tends to greet people.

He's a little ray of sunshine and puts smiles on most peoples faces. I don't want people feeling like they cannot interact with him just because there's bad people in this world.

The amount of people who reached into my DDs pram when she was a baby, especially when I'd just got her to sleep - I wish I'd shouted at them tbh. If I gave them a look they'd always get huffy. It's never okay to touch another person's baby and tbh I'm always funny about people approaching DD because of this, you can't say no because they get shitty so I imagine some people do go in guns blazing a bit.

Yes that is sad to hear. I often think the world must have gone mad.

I agree with you. It’s sad.
Also the woman didn’t start the game. He did. She just played along with him.
And you were just to him.

Our sense of community is just disappearing fast. We are getting more and more individualised but atvthe same time more and more isolated.
They are talking about isolation being now put on the MH issues. It’s not helped by people recoiling atvyhe very thought of someone they don’t know talking to them tbh.

Did anyone else cry at a post in yesterday's thread where an elderly lady had asked a Mner of she could look at her twins as she has lost hers 60 years ago to date?
Sobbed tbh.

"It's never okay to touch another person's baby" How so? It's almost certainly good for a baby to interact with other people, both socially and from a health point of view (developing the auto-immune system in a safe way by exposure to healthy people's microbiomes).

YANBU OP, it’s really sad. Today I was having lunch at a cafe and a father was there with his little girl (maybe 4/5?) and asked me if I minded if she came and gave me a hug as she liked my face and wanted to! Obviously I obliged - it actually kind of made my day as it was such a sweet and innocent thing, and she was so happy about it too! It’s part of life to interact with others.

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I didn’t see that but it sounds heartbreaking.

I think it’s ever so sad that people feel they can’t even respond to a happy wee soul trying to play with them.

I understand how it’s come to this, but it’s sad. Really sad.

Yes it’s sad. We were in the supermarket yesterday and my son was in the trolley waving at an elderly man. He waved back and we smiled and laughed and I said hello. He asked me if it was ok because he’d waved at someone in their pushchair and got a moutful of abuse

I'm the first one to pull a face or give a smile on the bus to a little one in a buggy. I enjoy it, they enjoy it - however I have found that Mum tends to look up from her phone after ignoring child and glares at me. Kids love interaction - plus I have a weird very expressive face anyway