Ex talking about me to new gf

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Just that really. How do you deal with it? He's telling her stuff that I did, but he's not telling her why I did it and he's not telling her the things he did, so makes me look like the bad person.

How did you find out?

why do u care?

How do you know? If its through a mutual friend tell them you don't want to know and stop telling you.

I would say this is pretty standard. My ex and I shared mutual friends and after splitting his new girlfriend was repeating everything to a mutual friend and I was painted out to be the most selfish, unreasonable, financially irresponsible person. You have to ignore.

Yup. My ex slagged off his last partner to me and now he's slagging off me to his current partner. It's not smart or clever but people do it.

Unfortunately although I understand you might feel indignant it's best to detach.

Some people yap utter shit.

My Ex did that about me, and it's really annoying but actually then I realised I didn't care. Knowing he was saying things was still a lot better than having to be his partner.

I dread to think what my exh has said about me, but I know the truth and it was/ is him that’s the twat. Ignore and rise above he’s taken up enough of your time already

You have no control over what people (especially ex) say about you or think about you. The best thing you can do is ignore and forget and move on positively.

If his new gf has any sense she will know there are two sides to every story, presumably she will be treated the same way by him anyway.

But really you need to keep repeating to yourself 'who cares?'

I'd forget about it... Every chance the new GF is thinking "why are you constantly talking about your old GF"

Honestly? Who cares if he’s slagging you off? It’s standard behaviour from an ex. As long as you know that you’re a good person and behave accordingly your ex’s opinions and half truths/total lies don’t matter.