To not want to do it anymore

[callmehannahbaker]

DD is a pain. I'm fed up. I want out now

I have been there. Many times. Being a parent is fucking shit sometimes

Too late! Ha! Just wait til you have a ds!

Right. Yes I'm mentally ill, yes I'm a fully lone parent. DD is hard work, she's 8, only just started sleeping through. Let me know what else I need to say to not drip feed. I'm just venting right now.

Thank you already for not making me feel like a shite

And 8 can be a horrible age - no longer the babies of the school and trying to bend/break the rules as they don’t apply to them now that they are the older ones . You have my sympathy OP

single what an absolute dick comment

Do you have support OP?

I have family support, I just need a few nights off and that's a lot to ask

I don't have any useful words. But Im sorry you are having a tough time.

Being a parent is fucking shit sometimes

Agreed. And it doesn't make you a bad parent or mean you don't love your kids if you feel that way.

My ds is 8 and also a shitbag pain. It doesn't matter what I threaten him with or how I deal with him he carries on doing as he pleases.

I have no advice but lots of sympathy, I'm not any more but know first hand that being a lp is bloody hard.

sending flowers and gin and cake. 8 can be so hard!

Sorry you are feeling like this. Hope you get a break soon!

It is the hardest job in the world! Just come back from a week abroad & honestly, I don’t think I have ever got so angry with DD before! Some of her behaviour even had DH in tears. Nothing is ever enough. She certainly won’t be bought anything else for a long time or until her attitude changes drastically.
Having said all that, sometimes being a Mum is also the best job in the world. DD can be absolutely awesome. When it’s really rubbish, I try to remember the good stuff 🙂

Thinking back yes, dd was a complete PITA at this age (hold on in there, she’s great now!).
What worked for us was sitting down together and me saying that as it was just me and her we were supposed to be a team, and right now we were anything but that. We worked out a set of rules together (some of dd’s we’re a bit odd but it was a joint exercise!), which we both signed and then I put on a bit sheet of paper and hung in the kitchen as a reminder. We still have it up even now - reminds us that even now we are a team

No advice as I have three and the eldest two are driving me to absolute distraction at the moment.

I often think kids are like dogs - they smell your fear.

Just wanted to offer a “you’re not alone” and some ☕️🍰💐

Foslady that’s a lovely anecdote.

Leave it under the bridge where it belongs.
It'll piss off if you ignore it.
Im sure you all know and what I'm talking about.

She's 8 and only just started sleeping through and plus you have your own condition to deal with. Im not in the slightest bit surprised you're finding things hard. No way are you shite. I can't imagine how much courage strength and bravery it must have taken you to post how your feeling and to open up on such an emotive thing.
Im not an expert and nor do I profess to be.
Like yourself I'm just a mum trying to do the right thing. However I don't think there is a parent out there past present or even future that would disagree it's damn hard work.

Thank you everyone-foslady-I'm going to try that with the rules tonight. I've posed it to DD this morning and she agreed we need to do something.

Oh that’s lovely! Fingers crossed for you that it works out ok. I saw itbas giving dd some controller control iyswim - acknowledging that she’s getting a little bit older

Have you just got the one little girl?

Try 4 daughters, a step daughter and 2 sons!

Oh lord, PP's coming on here to say who's got it worse.

Know how you feel Op, just want to offer my sympathy!

I am not looking forward to any more challenges from my DS, he's only 15 months old

Hang on in there, this will eventually be a distant memory take care of yourself.

I would imagine 8 years of not sleeping through would drive anyone to the edge!

You're allowed to be pissed off. Doesn't make you a bad parent, it makes you human x

SugarIsAmazing
Have you just got the one little girl?
Try 4 daughters, a step daughter and 2 sons! you're not playing Top Trumps you know.

op, I don't really have much in the way of advice apart from perhaps asking the gp or your dd's school for parenting classes to help you set and manage boundaries. Being firm, fair and consistent is easy to say but very difficult at times in practise.

Sugar. You're another A hole.
I'd say 99% of posters are nice well intentioned and helpful. However due the small minority I can see why this site does have a reputation for being unsympathetic.

If you can raise a child -especially on your own- and never once want to just walk out and go to the pub, you're a better person than I am! You're allowed to say, "You know what, this is shit" once in a while, because sometimes it really really is. This too shall pass, though. She said. Through gritted teeth...