A bit of a rant really
DM (86) leaves in a different country. DB leaves 15 min away from her.
She is overall ok, no major problems, but of course is getting frail and needs more help. She had a pulmonary embolism last year but recovered quite well.
Since then she has been thinking about moving into a retirement home. She went to see them, thought they were ok and left her details. A couple of months later was told she could have a 'test run' in one of the flats. She spent a week there and quite liked it so put her name down for the waiting list.
In the meantime she did some research and went to see other similar flats. Decided against them as they were more expensive and had less facilities.
Last week she received a call saying that a flat has become available and that she could move in July. She was very excited at first, but is becoming a bit anxious about it all.
She will be downsizing (from a 3-bed to a 1-bed) so will have to get rid of loads of things. I am trying to help as much as I can from here, giving advice and support and looking into options to see when I could go and help her with the actual move.
I sent a message to my brother over the weekend saying that it is all happening much quicker than expected, and for his opinion re. this and that. He didn't say much, but today he basically told me he thinks she should take it slowly and that he is not sure whether she can actually afford it.
Both are reasonable concerns, but AIBU to think WTF and why didn't he mention all of this earlier?!