To be a bit disappointed

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I know long term, I probably am, and I can't change anything but it still annoys me. My ex had our LO a few days ago for contact, even tho he was poorly and I had warned him before hand (as it was contagious) if he still wanted to have him as he lives with family etc. He said yes so he did. I don't think he believed me or thought I was exaggerating because he text me during contact saying 'wow x really is ill isn't he' and said it again when I picked him up.

He didn't really say anything else when I collected DS but I think it's a bit off ex hasn't even contacted me since to see how ds is as he saw how poorly he was? He's a lot better now, but as he claims all the time to be thinking of DS all day every day and how 'he is his world' etc I thought he'd wanna check up on him? Might just be me overreacting, but we have a pretty amicable relationship since splitting up and I thought he might've dropped me a message or something

Just me then....?

Does seem odd.

As you have an amicable relationship, if assume there is no malice in it though?

If = I'd

YANBU

@Crunchymum it's amicable enough as in we've managed to make arrangements between us with no legal services so far regarding contact and maintenance and our jointly owned property etc. There have been ups and downs, of course, but I just think it's odd with how he behaves and what he says are totally different things. I've had several friends and even ex mil ask after DS, and ex was in direct contact with him and hasn't bothered. It's just a bit sad I guess. He has his own life now, which I understand and respect, but to not ask after your own child who you know has been poorly recently just seems a bit off

Sadly you can't force someone to care.
My ex says the same, that DD is always on his mind, yet he fails to respond to suggestions as to when he wants to meet so often that if he sees her for 24 hours a year she's lucky.
Yet at Christmas he got a tattoo of the nickname we have for her. To show everyone how much she means to him. Twat.

Do you work OP? I ask because my ex was exact same back in Jan when DS was very ill with flu, and at first I wondered why he hadn't even dropped a quick text all week considering the last he saw of DS was him being really ill on the Sunday.
He ended up getting in touch the following weekend and it became clear he'd not contacted me as he was avoiding being asked to take time off work to look after sick DS, because he knew I couldn't really afford the whole week off work myself.

Ugh my dad was exactly like this. "You're my world, I care so much, I'm always here for you, you can talk to me about anything" when I was with him. Then when back home, he never rang, never came to any event, sometimes never even remembered birthdays. Fake fake fake and honestly fucks with a kids emotions to be built up and dropped like that over and over. He's not in my life any more.

So glad it's not just me!! I do work and he always offers to take time off if DS is ever poorly but I've asked 3 times on different occasions and he's done 1 of them. The tattoo is the kind of thing my ex would do but he's too much of a wimp to actually have one!