What would you do? MIL related

[Endmymisery]

Ex is moving out in the autumn, I don't get along with his mother. Never have, I've tired though but we just don't mix.

We had an argument couple weeks ago and we've not spoken since she ignores me and I ignore her when she's here.

She knows about the divorce and she comes round a lot, I've asked ex several times to keep her away until he moves out. But he refuses, so the bitch comes round whenever she wants. Right now I'm sat in my bedroom whilst she's in the livingroom drinking tea .

Every time she comes round, I just go out or go to my bedroom. But I'm just so angry, I shouldn't have to feel like this in my own home.

What would you do?

If it was me I'd probably try sending her a message to say something like 'I understand that you are upset but you coming over so frequently is making us both unhappy. It is not going to change anything between me and Ex, I am trying to behave well in this and you are making that hard. Ex is welcome to go and see you whenever you both want, but please could you keep visits here to a minimum until Ex has left' And if there's kids involved, mention something about how they must be feeling.

I think rather than hiding away from her I would go about my business as usual.

She’s his guest, not yours so you don’t have to engage with her beyond a polite nod or hello.

Otherwise do whatever you’d normally be doing around the house just as if she wasn’t there. She’ll feel more uncomfortable than you.

Fake it until you can make it.

Is she with him? Would you two be in the same room?

Get the Hoover out and have an uncontrollable need to Hoover what ever room she happens to be in.....

@Echobelly I couldn't do that now, I suffered with PND when I had my youngest 2 years ago, and she mocked my illness and called me so disgusting names. I'm so hurt, I can't even look at her. Since the argument we've never spoken again, so contacting her is out of the question.

@AmazingPostVoices I do go about my business when she's here. But what happens when I'm done? Shes normally here for a while, 5-6 hours. It's exhausting.

@Nanny0gg yes they're in the same room right now

As he wants to spend so much time with his Mother, he can move in with her now, not in the Autumn. Then you make it clear that she is no longer welcome!

Take all your clothes off, give her a big hug. Sit next to her on the sofa, so close that your skin touches & sing very loudly:
"I LOVE TO BE NAKED IN MY OWN HOME, I LOVE TO BE NAKED & LET MY BITS ROAM" on a loop until she leaves.
It's nothing your ex hasn't seen before, and once you've done this a few times she should back off

How often is it? is it more often since you seperated?

I think I'd go out ....every single time just pick up DC and leave....go to teh park/walk around the block whatever

or just stick the tv on - pick a programme you want to watch and hang onto the remote

or call your mum/friends. and moan about her being there ... about why her house must be horrible she's spending so much time at yours (well maybe not that bit!)

I certainly would not be pushed out of my own home/front room ...be angry

oh no teh being naked is a much better idea...

Do you think she’s doing this - the frequency and duration of visits, to make you uncomfortable in your own home. Rather than ‘just visiting’ her son.

Oh goodness End she sounds dreadful.

What does she do for 5 hours?

Is she there to see the D.C.?

You need to sit down with them and make yourself annoying! Tv on loud, butt in with conversations. Force her to have a conversation and if she says anything tell the bitch to get out. The only person here who can stand up for you is you, don't be pushed out of your own home. Stand up to them x

@Sausagerollers 😂😂😂 you made me laugh, I needed it thank you.

I could deal with it, if she was just here for an hour or two, but she just sits there drinking tea. Her son plays on his phone, and the kids are sometimes in their bedrooms playing. She has no friends, so her son is her life.

Ask him to tell you when she's coming to visit, and make sure he does. Then make plans for whenever she's home.

Extra points for marching out as soon as she walks in, ringing up your friend and saying loudly, "yes, his mother's here again..."

I'd take it as an opportunity to improve my social life and start going out more.

I guarantee they won't like that. Especially if you say you're going out on a date.

Take the fuse out of the kettle or hide the tea bags.

Thank god she left!

Ohhhh hiding tea bags!

Why the Autum OP? Why not yesterday?

I would sit in the living room on the phone, TV on, in your skimpy PJs

You could ask her opinion on Tinder?