Annoyed by mothers Facebook use

[Rasingbunny]

I don't like social media think it causes more trouble than its worth how ever My mother is an avid user if Facebook to the point it's anniying tagging me in some silly post daily ( usually something passive aggressive or fishing for a compliment) now I usually just ignore it, she is quite aware if how much I don't like my personal life being put on the Internet ( I have not announced I'm pregnant on any form of social media) but she put it upon herself to post my scan picture without my consent when I had it and now I'm almost 9 months she posted the most unflattering picture of me ( I haven't even posted any bump pictures) now I'm a big girl and can deal with an ugly photo what I'm struggling with is will she post pictures of my child onto the Internet without my or my partners consent

Have you told her not to?

she put it upon herself to post my scan picture without my consent

That is really not on at all! If she won't take it down, I'd report it to facebook and have them take it down instead.

If you haven't already done so, I'd set my settings so that any pictures (not sure about written posts) can't be tagged with your name unless you authorise it.

Have you actually told your mother not to do this? If not, you need to lay it out to her in very plain language. If you have told her, then time for much stronger wording.

That is so disrespectful of your Mum. My daughter doesnt like her personal life all over fb so we never ever post pics of her and her child. I think if she wont agree to respect this then you had better not let her have pictures.

Block her.

Even if she does post pictures then, she can't tag you in them so your friends won't see them.

I had to block my mum for similar reasons - no restraint...

Yeah block her; she probably will carry on posting pictures of your baby as well. Have you spoken to her about it?

Don't give her any photos, don't let her take any photos.
'Sorry DM but I'm not letting you take photos as you share them on FB without my permission'

does she tag you in the pictures? you can somewhat control a little if you deny adding it to your timeline.

That's easy to put a stop to. Unfriend her and change your privacy settings so that only your friends can see your photos. It's so not on that she posted your scan photo, of course, but how did she get hold of it?

If you don't want your mum to say anything about you on Facebook then don't tell her anything that you don't want to be shared in this way.

Are you actually on Facebook or not?
I thought you could only tag other facebookers

Does she know you aren’t happy with it?
I’d block her and explain to her nicely that you won’t let her take or have photos of your DD unless she’s gaureentees that they won’t end up on social media.
I don’t post anything of my DD and would be livid if someone else did fully knowing how I feel

Wrong of your mother and you need to tell her so. I do hope you can see the irony in not liking social media because 'it causes more trouble than it's worth' then asking advice on social media.

This happened to me a few years ago. I was hauled over the coals on that thread.

Apparently, by sharing pictures, there is an implied permission for the recipient to post them on whatever social media site they like.

I complained to FB and nothing happened. I know only share grainy terrible images with my father on WhatsApp to avoid a repeat.

Have you asked her to stop? If you dislike social media you could remove yourself from it or block her. Maybe even report the posts she tags you in with your picture. Call her out on it on Facebook so she may feel embarrassed?

Change your setting so no one can tag you

Nobody uses Facebook anymore.
Just stop sharing information and images with her that you don't want on social media.
Tell her why.
I imagine she will be announcing the birth for you (like my sister). So make sure she is the last to know.

I believe there is a setting on Facebook that you can choose to approve anything your tagged into before it gets posted to your profile.

The bump and scan picture you need to talk to her about or you'll find she'll announce your birth and possible a photo and details of your child.
You can report those to Facebook and they will remove them on the basis of being your child and posting without permission.
But unless you plan on never sending her a photo or allowing her to take photos with her grandchild, you need to discuss it with her.

Blocking her will only stop you seeing what she's doing but won't stop her posting things you don't want.

Nobody uses Facebook anymore

Ok then

I don't know the in's and out's of FB as i'm not on it, but it sounds as if blocking is the only way to go. Her behavior is crossing boundaries, but perhaps she's just carried away with FB?

A good few years ago my DM got a bit excited with long strings of forwarded 'jokey' emails and funny pictures which a group of 10 or 15 village friends would pass along. (Choc full of spam and god knows what else). She was very uppity with both me and another relative (very tech savy) who advised me not to open them due to the virus risk. (i was relieved to have an excuse not to open them tbh ). Just stick to your guns OP and take your won quiet steps to keep you and your kids off FB.

Set you account to block tagging of your posts/in pictures.

You need to discuss, not just for your scan and bump but for future child pictures. If she is an over sharer and you don't want pictures on line that discussion needs to be sooner rather than later. Does she understand it upsets you and just overrules your feelings?

You can report pictures of your children posted without your consent but you need to know they are there and also to get a response from FB support (which is a challenge in itself).

If it's any comfort less people are using Facebook now, but it's still a fair amount!

I would normally suggest unfollowing but that might cause problems if it's your mother. Simply don't give her access to any pictures and delete your Facebook account if you have one, I'd say.

My mum started telling me I shouldn't post "rude" captions under pictures of my children (you know, child covered in food, "me a messy eater? Never!").
So she doesn't see anything on my FB now due to privacy settings.
I am not sure she knows how to post photos though. I think she things I only post links to petitions and charity things that are public.

Change your settings so that nothing she posts or tags you in will appear on your Facebook timeline. And in future, don't send her any pictures. You can show her stuff on your phone when you see her. If she finds that upsetting, tell her exactly why.

"Mum, I'm not sending you any pictures because I can't trust you not put them on Facebook without my consent."

No one uses Facebook anymore? That's ridiculous, tons of people do.

Ok, have you actually told her not to do this and your reasons why? If you have, don't let her take any photos or send her any and tell her why.

Nobody uses Facebook anymore

Really? Stats would suggest different and it's still the most actively used Social Media network across the world.