to ask on behalf of my daughter...

[SugarIsAmazing]

I have read through the thread about helplessness and about mums applying for jobs on behalf of their children...

My daughter needs a work placement for her college course. I know a man who I was friends with in school and he lives down my road. We speak when we see each other as neighbours and get on ok, but not like actual friends anymore. He is employed in the sector that my daughter needs experience in. Would it be unreasonable for me to ask him about a placement? If my daughter asks him direct he won't know who she is unless she mentions me, and then I'll be sort of involved anyway.

No harm in asking if itsunami one thing he could help with .

I think placements are a different matter, especially if the child is under 18 - it's normal, rather than 'helicopter parenting', to ask a contact if they could give your kid a work placement.

@ SugarIsAmazing

Rather than ask about a placement, why not facilitate contact?

So along the lines of "DD is really interested in working in your sector, could I put her in touch with you to chat about a placement?"

In that scenario it would be perfectly sensible for you to ask him. You are just making enquiries on her behalf, so different to actually applying for a job

Your daughter needs to ask. Why involve yourself just because you knew him years ago and why would it even really make a difference?

That would not be unreasonable