Aibu to be annoyed at party guest parents?

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Ds1 (7) went to his best friends birthday tea party on Saturday- all day affair at their house, only 5 kids invited
He woke up last night all disoriented, sweaty, saying he was cold, sore throats and headache so is off school today. Whilst I was walking DS2 there this morning, I bumped into birthday child's mum and birthday child is also off sick today - she told me that another guest of the party had been so ill that he'd been in hospital Friday night having antibiotics and parents had still dropped him at the party Saturday lunchtime because 'he really wanted to come'
When I got to school, I saw mum of ill child handing in calpol to the office for them to give him too
Aibu to be really annoyed? I'm having to take today off work to look after ds1 because they dumped their sick kid at a party all day and are probably infecting more kids if he's in school today?
Also ds2 has really severe asthma (frequent hospital admissions) and I'm scared that if he gets this then that's another week on children's ward (and a week of lost pay) for us?

Yanny. Somone sending a sick child to any event with others is very thoughtless. I'm sorry your little one is sick now, that's such a shame.

Yanbu* not yanny, sorry.

YANBU if he only started the antibiotics Friday he should have waited 24 hours before being around other kids. That said it's just one of those things kids always pick up bugs all the time. It's a pain but it happens.

Slightly off topic but why will the school give calpol out. I thought most schools only give prescription meds?

The problem is, you don't know if it was this specific child that gave it to your child, or if they all were exposed at school and had different incubation periods. Things like strep throat can have a 24-72 hour incubation period that affect different children at different rates. They could have all been exposed on Thursday.

Its hard and yes, parents need to be better at keeping their kids home when sick. The only suggestion I can give is maybe have the school reiterate its policy on sickness absences, and please to also include this for weekend get togethers, even though it may be disappointing that they cannot attend something they really wanted to.

I am surprised the school allowed the calpol to be administered- usually they say of you are sick enough to need calpol, you shouldn't be in school.

YANBU. That’s really selfish and daft. Their child couldn’t have been well enough to go to a party if they’d been in hospital the night before. My DS was off school with an awful cold which his best friend brought to his party, having had that day off school himself because he was so ill, then spent 3 hours coughing and spluttering over everyone in the cinema.

Are they in class together at school?

It does appear stupid to send a sick child to a party but he may have been past the infectious period anyway.

It might be "just one of those things", but it is still a monumentally selfish thing to do NomNom

Yes I'd be annoyed

Party mum shouldn't have accepted sick dc to party

Also should have let you know after that a dc had been hospitalised

LoniceraJaponica I already said it's not acceptable but since these kids are friends anyway they may well have been infected at school before hand. If the antibiotics had kicked in enough for him to be fine all day at the party he may well not have even been infectious at that point. I certainly wouldn't send my kid to a party in that situation but I don't think it's worth getting worked up about.

For what it's worth when my DS was hospitalised with strep the nurse said he was fine to socialise as soon as he felt well enough to.

I agree it was a selfish thing to do but since the incubation period for almost all illnesses is 3-5 days an exposure on Saturday likely isn't the cause, more likely it was shared earlier in school.

Are you sure that they hadn't been told that it was fine for him to be around other children because he was no longer contagious? These things usually take a few days to incubate. It is more likely that they were all sick alrwady just asymptomatic.

Yes: most infections are transmitted before symptoms appear, so I wish people would stop the self-righteous whining about how TERRIBLE it is for a slightly-ill-but-recovering kid to be in the company of others. Germs exist, kids get sick, it's tiresome but it happens.