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A little cry for help...

9 replies

Pinkbutton85 · 24/06/2018 17:35

I don't know what to do or where to go from here.

My depression has hit an all time low lately. I'm not going to do anything silly, but I've definitely been having 'what's the point?' thoughts.

I've been on Sertraline for a couple of years now. Starting on the lowest dose and now at the highest they can give me. I've had counselling which I didn't find to be of much help, but the dr is referring me back for another go at it.

I'm not laying in bed all day unable to do things. The house is fine, the shopping is done, meals are cooked, my kids are happy etc.

I'm just sort of numb to life. I don't seem to have any emotions besides anger and sadness. I don't feel happy or excited about anything. I feel emotionally detached from everything.

The very brief backstory is that I was in an emotionally abusive/controlling relationship for 5 years before having a brief fling with someone which ended in a rape resulting in my eldest child. She was prem and it all lead to depression and PND. 2nd daughter came along, premature also. Depression reappeared. Diagnosed with S.A.D. that year. Then a bout of severe health anxiety after a traumatic hospital stay which plunged me back into depression again. Things picked up for a while and then the dark clouds slowly came back to the point that I'm at where I am now.

I don't know what I can do or how to get away from this feeling.

I'm a SAHM with a supportive partner. My eldest is about to go primary school and my youngest off to nursery. So I'll have more time to focus on 'me'.

How did you get yourself out of the deep hole? What helped?

I'm feeling that maybe the medication is what's causing me to feel numb to life. So maybe wean myself off of it but try something else 'natural' or some lifestyle changes?

I don't know what I'm hoping from this post. Just someone else who has gotten past this.

Sorry for the ramble, thanks for getting this far! Flowers

OP posts:
Pinkbutton85 · 24/06/2018 17:53

Anyone?

OP posts:
MerlinsScarf · 24/06/2018 17:59

No words of wisdom but just wanted to say hello and help give your post a bump, hopefully someone more knowledgeable will be along in a minute.

Pinkbutton85 · 24/06/2018 18:00

@MerlinsScarf Thank you Flowers

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2ndstreet · 24/06/2018 18:01

Hey, hope you’re feeling a bit better. Have you talked to your dr about cbt rather than just counselling? And maybe changing your medication? I’ve had 3 different anti depressants all of which helped at different times in my life. I didnt permanently get better until finding a good cbt therapist, I’ve now been off meds for 10 years which is not to say I don’t have low days but never prolonged periods of depression anymore. It can get better but requires help and working on it Flowers

VioletCharlotte · 24/06/2018 18:02

Didn't want to read and run Thanks
I've been where you are with depression after an abusive relationship, it does take a long time to heal. It does sound like you're feeling numb from the medication. Maybe go back to your GP for a chat, perhaps now that you're in a better place, it could be time to reduce the dose?

Bossyboots88 · 24/06/2018 18:03

You sound like you've really had a rough time. You could maybe ask your doctor to change your medication, when my dh was feeling this way the change really helped him.
Flowers

cutewithsharpteethpossibly · 24/06/2018 18:10

I experienced depression and anxiety about 5 years ago, at the time I felt I would never be back to my usual self and it was the person I had become. I had cognitive behaviour therapy and through this made changes to my life and how I was living. It took a while but the depression has gone, go back to your Doctor, you can get better, give yourself time and accept help Flowers

aaaaargghhhhelpme · 24/06/2018 18:11

Hey op. Just wanted to say hello and you’re not alone Flowers

Is there any reason why they’re sticking with sertraline? Can they try something else? And I second the cbt. It’s more than just counselling and will give you ways to help yourself in between sessions.

Sounds like you’ve not had much of chance to be you instead of ‘mum’ so yes hopefully school and nursery will give you some headspace. Sorry I can’t help more Flowers

BeautyBox · 24/06/2018 18:14

Hi OP, sorry to read that you're feeling so numb.

My first thought would be back to GP to ask to try something different in terms of medication.

Also change it up re: counselling. Did you have CBT? Can you look into going private?

I know it sounds shit but do you have time for yourself for a hobby (tho I know probably not something you feel like right now)? Do you exercise? Sleep ok? Not a drinker?

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