To wonder how people manage with no help?

[InTheLightOfTheMoon]

I need to go out, my son is ill and doesnt want to come. I need to go so there is no choice. I will have to take him in the buggy (he is 4) and carry the baby in the sling (13 months) which I just know is going to be tough! How do other people manage with no help?

I forgot to add the older 2 are 6 and 7.

I had a buggy boad for when I had to get somewhere at less than a childs pace. It was a godsend for school pick ups when I had 10 mins to ger from pre school to primary school with 3 under 4 (14 months apart).

I'm not single, have DH but absolutely no other support whatsoever. Am NC with my parents and brother due to childhood abuse, and inlaws just CREATE problems.
Am sick at the moment, on antibiotics and feeling like shit. My friend has been away for almost 2 weeks on holiday and messaged me this morning to say she was back. I asked her if she had a nice time. I mentioned I wasn't well (didn't go into massive details) and she completely ignored me and bitched about how expensive her holiday was. Said she was going to spend the day lying in the sun. Again I said I was in bed sick, and nothing. Just send me a picture of her stupid dog "So pleased to see his Mummy's home"

Sorry OP, went off on a tangent there, but yes, I suppose what I'm saying is you manage as best as you can because unfortunately no one else seems to care.

I had no help - exH was living overseas, family all overseas, I had no friends and didn't know my neighbours.
When mine were really young, I had to organise my life in such a way that there weren't things I would 'have to do' without them being planned. Of course life happened, I'll get ill a child will be ill etc and I just made a way around it.

One thing that helped was that my kids went to nursery from a very young age (as I worked full time) so if one was ill, I would only have that one. If I was ill, at least they would be looked after during the day while I took over at night.

I don't know any other way really. The downside is that I now can't seem to use 'help' when it's offered. I can only do it on my own.

Sounds very tough OP

When your DC are better, could you go to a playgroup or similar to start connecting with people in a similar position?

Currently sat at a bus stop waiting ages for the bus that the shops will probably be shut now :(. Baby is squirming and screaming to get out the sling.