I'll start by saying I'm no angel to live with and am far from perfect, but I don't know if me getting annoyed about these issues is unreasonable, or I should just let it go!
Kitchen - we have a wooden worktop. Bloody stupid choice but we're stuck with it. We have loads of chopping boards, and a glass worktop saver out all the time. Does he use them? Of course he doesn't. Last night I came home to find him making a salad using the teeniest chopping board, so no use at all. The worktop was soaked in tomato juice, water from washed veg etc. He was slicing cheese directly on top of the wood...
Washing up. We have a dishwasher. Everything gets put in there. I finish my food, scrape leftovers into the food bin, swill the worst off and either put straight into DW, or leave in sink if it's already full / on. He finished his food, dumps plate straight in sink. Could be bloody caked in food. No matter.
Lateness. I'm dyspraxic so I struggle with timekeeping. Because of this I try to be really organised and try my absolute best to leave plenty of time to get somewhere. He is not dyspraxic. He never ever leaves enough time to at anywhere. He takes the kids to regular activities. If they are a 10min drive away, he'll leave 5mins before they are due to start. He is purposefully late all the bloody time. His family are the same so it could be genetic I suppose!
I try and tell him reasonably why he shouldn't do the things above. He just says " yeah yeah", and continues. I get annoyed. He accuses me of always having a go at him.
Argh!!!!!