Meet the Other Phone. Child-safe in minutes.

Meet the Other Phone.
Child-safe in minutes.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Neighbours making life hard.

55 replies

Cheeseandcrisps · 24/06/2018 10:19

Hello everyone it's more of a wwyd. I live in a masonette been here for just under 2 years with my dh and dd. We have a woman that lives next door we have always been polite to her my dh has never really liked her but has always been polite and o tried to be friends with her but whenever we spoke I always felt she was trying to intimidate she also once for angry at me as when we moved in we got new carpet my dd was 8 weeks old at the time she felt we shouldn't have carpet because she couldn't afford any and her dd is older. She also told me the plans I got given by the council outlining where my garden is was a load of rubbish and whole lot was her garden I called our housing officer and had her come out to explain whos garden belonged to who.

This woman fell out with another neighbour who I happen to get along with but I made it clear from the start I didn't wish to get involved in any arguments they were having we all have to live there so we should all try and rub along. Since this fall out she had with the other neighbour I've heard her outside with the man that lives in the flat underneath her masonette bitching about me and the other neighbour. Dh and I previously got along with the man who lives under next door but all or a sudden he stopped speaking to us and started being horrible to our dd.

I have trouble with my breathing so need to leave my bedroom window open at night to get the fresh air and keep it moving especially when its not all my neighbours know that and they have always been very understanding the man downstairs has now taken to lighting bonfires at 2am then he's outside again at 6 stomping around and talking loudly.

I've stopped speaking to the girl next door I was getting tired of the way she speaks to me anyway and fron her past she causes trouble nearly everywhere she goes in her last property the neighbours hated her and her then boyfriend so much they drove her out which im not saying is right but a lot of people have warned me about what a nasty piece of work she is I've always given her the benefit of the doubt and always made it clear i dont want to be involved in arguments I'm out most days and usually home for tea time and I'm pretty much in for the night so i really dont know how all of a sudden I've fallen out with 2 neighbours.

Since the garden situation ive been moaned at for several things including opening my front door too loudly with the key Hmm il admit the door is a little stiff but the latest time I open my door is anout 8pm and I always try and do it quietly I have a dd in bed I wouldn't deliberately make noise im really not that sort of person just don't know what to do now it's getting to the point were it feels like bullying and my other neighbours have agreed.

Sorry for waffling on I have anxiety im also pregnant at the moment after 2 miscarriages this year so this extra upset and stress is doing me no good at all. If ive mafe any mistakes or the post is hard to follow please just let me know and I will clarify. Many thanks for reading!

OP posts:
Lana1234 · 24/06/2018 20:41

Hope you’re okay OP. If they do bang on the door then absolutely call the police. This is no environment for you and your toddler to be living in. Is there a neighbour close to you who could step in if they came and bothered you?

WhiteWalkerWife · 24/06/2018 20:44

Call 101 now, tell them the back history and your fears. Get a reference you can tell 999 when they come banging.

Why won't you report? The guy harasses and intimidates. He doesn't give a shit if you are scared or upset.

LexieLulu · 24/06/2018 22:11

Call none emergency and explain what happened. They will probably send police out anyway x

LexieLulu · 24/06/2018 22:12

I've just realised time of your post, have you done anything since it has he? @Cheeseandcrisps

Cheeseandcrisps · 24/06/2018 23:28

Thankfully nothing more happened and his family buggered off around 10 the man passed out drunk before then i could here his daughter trying to get him to drink water after he fell over in the garden. I have decided I'm reporting to the council tomorrow my housing officer is really nice and I get on well with her so i think she will try and help in any way possible or at the very least she can give me some advice and info.

OP posts:
New posts on this thread. Refresh page