ive been with my husband for 15 years married for 6years we have 10 year old twins and tbh our life togther is pretty good we hardly argue and we have been through some rough times and stayed togther he really is the love of my life my hero brilliant father but there one major problem that im just at the end of my tether with .... he can be very controlling - i dont think he realizes he does it tho evan tho when i try and talk to him about it he shrugs it thinks im been over dramatic - over the years i have let him take control of everythink to our house decor to what goes where to punishing the kids if they misbehave i kind of just been an silent in the background - hes not possesive i can still see friends and maybe a night out but if i do it too much he goes abit moody so maybe go out without him a couple of times a year which tbh i dont mind but its now getting to the point things are irritating me - i dont like some parts or the house and garden and want to move things but he tells me NO if i do move things he moves them back - he hates shelves so cant have any up in the house evan tho i need them - my dad died recently and left me a couple or garden orniments which i want moving from where my husband put them, he hates them and wants to sell them but i made it clear im not going to but i want them moved to the top of the garden which i cant do on my own as there heavy but he wont :( - i just feel like im getting to a point in my life i want things too i want to be abit independant but feel i cant :( this is so hard i love him so much and apart from his OTT ways hes fantastic - talking to him is no good and now im just resenting for everythink that he wants his way - i know i could do alot worse but just want a voice and have choices in life