I have name changed for this post. Sil is on here and I really need to get this off my chest, no holds barred.
I feel I believe, my husband is just such a bully. A manipulative controlling bully.
But according to him there is just no pleasing me.... I feel like I am going mad!!
My brain is so addled, this might make no sense. I'm just so confused.
Everything has to be his way, and if I push back (which I do) it's always because (according to him) everything has to be my way and I am totally unreasonable.
I genuinely hand on heart feel it's not true. And I am exhausted from being bullied and manipulated. I know nobody on here knows us, or sees us day to day, so you couldn't possibly tell me if I'm the bully or he is. I just feel like I'm going mad, and I have nooone in real life to talk to. 
I'm pretty sure I want to separate and I tried to talk to him tonight. So he had a huge hissy fit and stormed off. Like, can I not separate from my husband if he just refuses to listen to me????? I am so unhappy. But according to him that's my own fault. Is it???
We have 2 lovely kids that we both adore. We both work full time but I do all of the wifework, school stuff, as well as house, cut grass diy etc. I'm miserable.
I actually don't expect solutions from strangers on the Internet, I just need to let this out.