To be annoyed with DH

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Maybe I'm just being silly. But today my two year old wasn't listening and continuously tried to do something I told her not to, so I told her no and pulled her hand away from what she was trying to do. Naturally she started crying, as two year olds do but instantly DH was there with cuddles and kisses. I'd of left her to it till she calmed down but DH said I was being moody and "she's only a baby."
I'm just annoyed that instead if having my back in telling my DD she shouldn't do something he was there to comfort her for having a natural reaction to being told off as though I was the bad guy! She only cried because she was being told off not hurt or anything like that.

My dh is the disciplinarian and I will not back him up if I don't agree. Your way is not necessarily the right way.

Consistency between parents regarding discipline is really important. You need to be a team on this.

Sit down and work out your boundaries together.

If he undermines you it will cause problems down the line. You need to sit down and come to an agreement on punishments. Just because she's only 2 it doesn't mean the her behaviour can't go unchecked

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@Lethaldrizzle I think that's just unreasonable to not share the responsibility of discipline, in raising a child you can't really wish out jobs. I told my 2 year old to repeatedly not do something she continued to do so I took her away from the situation, maybe next time i should just leave her to do it and not let her know she has to listen to her parents then?

No point continually telling a 2 year old not to do something. Make it impossible for them to do the something, or move them away.

RedSkyAtNight While that's the ideal, not everything can be removed so sometimes they need to listen.

But I sometimes tell DP that he's too strict or whatever as he tends to escalate a situation.

I think if you two have different parenting strategies it will cause more problems down the line when your child is old enough to really process it.

I'd suggest working out your boundaries together so you can remain united.

I didn't say I do not believe in discipline. I do not believe in too much discipline.

And I often disagree with dh on parenting styles. Seemed to have raised pretty successful kids so far.

No point continually telling a 2 year old not to do something. Make it impossible for them to do the something, or move them away.

This

You shouldn’t be continually telling a child not to do something.

Warning woth clear consequence followed through if the behaviour continues.

You do need a united front or it’ll be mummy verses daddy in future.

We've had similar arguments. It was about holding hands. DD refused so I said that we were going back to car and tantrum ensued. DH said I was the unreasonable one for making her hold hands in a place of safety (a field)... Not her call I'm afraid.
It took a huge row but we I think he eventually saw where I was coming from. He can't be the fun guy all the time and has to back me up.
She tries to play us off against each other all the time and she's only 2. He says no and it's "Mama" crying and vice versa.
I completely agree with you. You need a united front!