Present!!!!

[ginandnappies]

DS first birthday next month. I told MIL in law what we were planning on buying him on Wednesday, and on Friday she phoned my partner to say she had bought him it. AIBU to be annoyed/gutted?

Please give me a kick up the bum if I am!

YANBU and I'd be gutted too. You'll have to suck it up this time and learn a lesson. Never, ever tell her again what you are going to buy.

. Hope he has a fun birthday.

Get DP to text her that he's hoping she's kept the receipt as she'll have to return it. And in future...tell her nothing. Lesson learned.

It's a dick move but your baby will never remember who bought what at this stage. Just learn from it and don't tell her what you plan to buy next time.

I would be delighted! Put the money you would have spent into his savings account instead - the baby won’t have the faintest idea of who bought what. You’ll still have all the enjoyment out of the present without the cost. Maybe for the next few birthdays and christmases you should tell her you were planning to buy and get her to fund it.

Happened to us and I was annoyed too. I told her, politely but firmly, we’d already purchased that gift (we hadn’t, but it was in my online basket ready to buy). She huffed and puffed about having to return it but, as others have said, it was a lesson learned.

Lesson learnt about telling her things. Get DP to inform her you've already bought it like you had told her so she'll have to take it back. If she tries to argue he needs to be firm and remind her she was told that you would be purchasing it.
Don't let her get away with it as she'll over step this boundary and try to buy as many firsts as she can.

My MIL did this on ds last b-day, he was 2. She posted it out to Australia, where we live! Daft old lady! I gave it to the charity shop. What goes through their minds?

Great- you don't need to buy it and your child will still have it.

One of my friends just wrapped up their existing toys for birthdays and christmas for first 2 years. Only thing new each time was a balloon in a box.

Yeah, definitely lesson learnt!! DP says I'm being ungrateful but I'm just so angry. Long history of her overstepping her mark! I'll know for next time I guess. Thanks all for your comments :) also balloon in a box sounds like a great idea! My LO is obsessed with balloons x

It is a dick move from her, but maybe she thought she was doing you a favour by getting them a present she knew they'd like? Or some weird thought process like that? In future when she asks what you're getting, you could say something you wanted to get but was a bit above your budget and then she'll get it instead and kiddo wins? 😉