To wonder if you recovered from being a Has Been and if you have how did you do it?

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Im early 40s. Fat. Divorcing. Could go on....help. PLEASE.

Stop looking at yourself as a has been. This is a new chapter. Start planning good things

Out of the three “problems” you have quoted - you can’t do anything about your age, probably not your divorce, but you can change the fat bit. Aim to get fit and lose weight for a brand new you. Do it for health purposes. Make positive choices about wellbeing. There are no quick fixes but from experience losing weight and getting fitter does completely change your mindset.

I just simply refused to allow people to characterise me like this.

I am also 40s and divorcing.

I feel happier and more attractive than I have for nearly 20 years.

I don't give a tinker's fuck about what people think about how I should be behaving for my age. And I am fucked if I'm going to allow anyone to define me by my age.

That's it really. Just don't let it in and don't give it any quarter.

Just fixate in your mind 'I wonder what new person I will be when I come out of this'. Well it worked for me.

I'm just turning 40 and divorcing and couldn't be happier about it.

Why would it make you a has been? What would be better if you were in a relationship? Can you look at the opportunities ahead of you?

Has been happy.... will be again.

Im too tired to write all my thoughts right now but thank you for your inspiration. Ill write again tomorrow.

Love, love, love Tinkers Fuck.xxxxx

I'm about to turn 40 and I'm divorcing. Instead of feeling like a "has been "I feel like a new me, more alive with a world of possibilities ahead of me .
Think of it like a rebirthing of the new you .

Found the 40s amongst the best years of my life. Go girl!