So just dropped dcs off with their dad - we've been separated 4 years.
He announces he's met someone new. That's all lovely however he only split with his last gf 4 weeks ago.
He was due to take the dcs on holiday in August to a caravan for a week with his last gf and her son. I liked her a lot, she was lovely.
He told me 4 weeks ago they had split.
Tonight he's told me he's been seeing the new girl for 2 months (he's clearly cheated on his ex with the new girl) and wants to introduce the dcs to his new gf and her 5 dcs already! Also he has already invited the new gf to come along with her kids on the holiday he was supposed to go on with the old gf!
To make matters worse.....my dcs think he's still with his old gf! He hasn't told them they are no longer together. Which I didn't think was a problem....but I never expected him to meet someone else so quick. Dcs constantly talk about his ex and her son. They grew quite close to her son. They've asked me why they haven't seen them for a while and I've just said 'they are probably just busy'. And I thought it would just fizzle out and they would stop asking. And it's not my place to tell them anything anyway.
I was just gobsmacked at him. And unbelievably angry he's already asked this woman to go on holiday with them!
Now I know I have no say in it. He's a parent too etc etc. So I don't need any replies telling me there's not much I can do about it as I already know.
But I told him I'd appreciate it if he considered the dcs and waited at least 6 months before introducing this new woman and her kids.
Also ds is autistic so how the hell he is going to cope with going on a holiday with a woman he hardly knows and all her kids. He can't cope with anything social so that would be so hard on him. And I need to know more about the new gf before I feel comfortable around my son. Like I say, last gf was great. She really took her time to get to know ds.
I'm just angry! But what can I do??? Nothing :-(
He didn't end up saying what he was going to do. Clearly he's already invited this new woman along on holiday and I've probably gone and made it very difficult for him. So now he will portray me as the bad one to the new gf when in reality I'm just a mum trying to protect her children. They've already been introduced and created a new relationship with one woman....it didn't work as he most likely cheated. Meanwhile he's got a new gf and my poor dcs still think he's with the old one....and they are going to be introduced to this new woman and her 5 kids.