To wonder the point of telling someone that ..

[Mandybrighton]

I popped into the hairdressers this morning, in old workout clothes and post two costa coffees.. I had minimum Make up on and like most mornings with young children had been up since 6.30am.

The hairdresser washes my hair and then when she seats me exclaims very loudly ‘ oh myyyy god you look absolutely knackered ‘ I said well yeah because I am ! ( we had already discussed about me having kids including a toddler ).

Looking in the mirror I don’t feel I looked as tired as I felt. But it got me thinking why people often turn around and say this? If the person you tell it too isn’t feeling knackered your gonna cause offence but telling them they look it and if they are they might happily agree with your comment but again you have highlighted something most people don’t want to hear...

Personally I could have quipped back something about her harsh blonde hair cut not doing her any favours or the fact her thick ass foundation was orange but I’m not that mean :-)

Does it offend you if someone remarks your looking knackered / tired?

Xx

Depends who they are! If it was a friend or someone I know well then I'd assume they were being sympathetic. (Hope they were, anyway.)

Sorry this is more about hairdressers and their comments than what you asked but I remember going to one hairdressers in my early 40's and being asked if I had any grandchildren yet! I didn't go back :(

I think I would be offended if a stranger said I looked knackered, but not if it was a friend.

That’s rude! I hope you didn’t tip!

This is pretty much the reason I don't wear makeup all the time. If people get used to seeing you in make up, then if you don't have it on for some reason they think you look knackered. Whereas if they're used to your normal face and you put make up on for an evening out then you get lots of lovely compliments about how nice you look. I know which way round I'd rather have it!

It's still rude to have said anything!

I think it's really rude when people say that. I used to work with someone who, whenever I didn't have any make-up on (I don't wear a lot anyway so can't have looked THAT different), used to look at me with surprise and tell me how tired I looked. I wasn't, I felt fine (and I looked fine too IMO)! I think it was just her way of trying to put me down.

I think this is incredibly rude! It would’ve been fab if you’d replied “I’m not” or something along those lines to make her feel awkward. I wouldn’t have been brave enough though 🙈