Ds temperature of 38.4- nursery or no?

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Otherwise seems fine. Eating, drinking and happy

Personally, I would send him if he otherwise seems fine and is eating and drinking. I'd give baby nurofen and let the nursery know. Our nursery don't mind and will give calpol to control it if possible before requiring pickup.

Definitely not.

I agree @GeorgietheGorgeousGoat, people do take the piss. DS has been so ill since starting nursery it's unreal, and I'm sure it's because people send their kids in ill. It can be silly though, if blanket rules are applied with no thought-I visited one nursery who said if DS had any 'loose' nappies he'd immediately be sent home He has loose nappies every day, that's his normal. We're instructed under the care of a paediatric dietitian to attempt to reintroduce his allergens every three months and each time this causes 10 days to two weeks of 5-6 loose nappies a day, we'd never be in work!! I'm thankful our nursery follows a common sense policy of knowing what's normal for the individual child.

I think the decision is more difficult for parents who work and their only option is to take time off work or send child to nursery (i.e. no local family support).

If parents want to hold down a job, then the only option is to try to minimise the amount of time off work at very short notice. Calpol can be very useful in these very common 'temp but otherwise seems fine' circumstances.

My 17 month old has a high temp and terrible nappies just before a tooth pops through. I can guarantee within 2-3 days of this happening she will have a new tooth. Her childcare are amazing and use a very common sense approach. They have had her since she was 8 months old and know this is what happens when she gets a tooth.

They will administer Calpol or neurofen if she has a high temp by calling me and asking if it's ok. If I have given her any at home I tell them and they fill in a form and I sign it.

I would of personally sent him in if Calpol brought down the temp this morning.

And what happens in 2-3 days and a tooth doesn’t come? And then you go ‘oh no this time it must have been a bug’. Too late then you’ve infected half the nursery and 2 members of staff are off sick.

I am quick strict with illness, but my parents appreciate it. They know their child will be coming here and not playing along side little Johnny who’s been up all night vomiting it sharing toys with Frieda who’s got hand foot and mouth. As a result I’ve had 3 sick days in 10 years and I don’t have to take time off because mine aren’t catching it either.

I do understand the pressures of working parents, I’m one myself. That’s why I don’t want to be surrounded by sick kids so I can be available for my families and not constantly off sick.

Both DH and I work. DS came home last night a bit warm. He has deteriorated in the past two hours so clearly has something he is fighting.

We go along with 'If you have to ask the question you already know the answer' when it comes to sick kids and school/nursery. I have a whole schedule of back up sitters we can use if both of us have to work.

georgie she has had tummy bugs since being at nursery and they are very different to teething nappies. When she has had bugs I have kept her off. If your baby suffers with teething nappies then you know the difference. I even kept for off with hand, foot and mouth although I could of sent her in as there is no exclusion period for this. So I think the approach myself and her childcare take is a common sense approach.

want2be what if you didn't have back up sitters? I don't have anyone locally that can have my daughter. It's just me and my partner as our eldest works full time and family are too far away or too infirm to help out. I have had to take off 3.5 weeks off work since September last year. Luckily I have been in my job long enough that they know I'm not normally like this.

Its all common sense. If a child is well in themselves and there is no deterioration then I would send them in.

diva We live 3000 miles from our parents and my closest relative is 500 miles away. This is why I've gone out of my way to cultivate a list of back up sitters. DH and I have some flexibility but both of us have careers where we can't always take time off. As an example we are moving offices tonight. My boss and I are the last two standing and I have to be there to coordinate one end of the moving. I have board meetings and investor meetings I have to attend and they can't be rescheduled so I plan accordingly.

My nursery has a common sense approach. If a temp is slightly raised and it seems like teething and there are no other symptoms they’d be fine to watch and do Calpol if needed. If it hit 38 while in their care they’d manage it but they wouldn’t be happy with you bringing in a child with that temp. When my daughter’s hit 39.5 once they wanted a collection asap which I think was sensible.

We live 3000 miles from our parents and my closest relative is 500 miles away. This is why I've gone out of my way to cultivate a list of back up sitters

@Want2bSupermum may i ask how/where you found the back-up sitters? I'm in a similar situation re family living so far away. All the local friends, neighbours and colleagues I know work full time. I'd be interested in how you go about getting to know / lining up a few options that you'd be comfortable leaving your child with at short notice.

want2be how did you find these sitters? Not being narky genuinely asking. Everyone I know works. I went back when my daughter was 8 months old and even my friends with kids all work. I didn't gel with anyone enough at playgroup to trust them with my daughter for a whole day if she was sick as that's a big ask! I have normal babysitters for an evening but they work full time in the daytime so again I have no one.

It's taken me 7 years and I'm always adding people. I split up the week and start them off as evening sitters. These are mothers who work shifts or graduate students who have experience with children. I have two nursing students in my list. I share my back up list with two other mothers and if we have multiple kids who are sick we put them together so we are only looking for one sitter. We all live within a block so not far between us.

I have the option to work from home but I rarely do it because I'm in a relatively senior position at work and my job is much easier if I'm there.

As a mother I found it really hard to ask for help when DD was small. I thought I needed to be home hugging them when they are sick. I realized that Daddy could more easily stay home than me. As time has gone on I've had more practice at asking for help.

Megabeth - first of all they almost always smell of it! Within the hour start to get clingy and emotional, and it’s just obvious they’re unwell.

Hope your DS is feeling better today OP

Ive sent DS to the childminder with a temperature numerous times. She is fine with accepting him if he is well in himself and can give calpol.

I teach so time off isn’t easy and leaving school half way through the day is a nightmare as it relies on colleagues covering my classes.