Age Gap Love ...... whoa!

[sirmione16]

Anyone else watching or watched the documentary Age Gap Love ?! I'm cringing the whole way through. Thoughts?!?!

There was 20 years between my parents. They were very happy until my dad died at 80. It has, of course left my mum with a large slice of her life alone.

@Thehop that's a really sad reality of it. One of these couples of the show met when she was 16, he was 48?! Not only does this factor come into it, but that's practically paedophilic.

I’d be interested in watching this, what channel was it on?

Like @massively my ex, also love of my life was 20+ years older than me. Age never played a part in our demise (for me), I accepted I’d be alone in my fifties/sixties and accepted that it was worth the sacrifice.

@didsomeonesaybunny channel 5, I'm watching it on demand.

I'm fairly an open minded person and ultimately if they happy, let it be I say.

How about a 40 year difference?!?

@massivelyouting that's really lovely to hear

My partner is 19 years older than me. I'm closer in age to his two eldest children, and he is closer to my parents' ages.

My parents have a 16 year gap. My mum says it's worth it because she truly loves my dad, even though he has more limits now.

I've gone 12, 14 and 16 years older dating and not felt uncomfortable, although I had my first "gap" at 22 so no teenage-adult dramas. 28 now and DP is 28, too so I view "dating up" as ab option not a pattern. It just happens to be who you love.

My DH is 11 years older than me. He was 39 and I was 28 when we met. Been happily married nearly 30 years. My parents had a similar age gap but they were mid 30s/mid 40s when they married.

that's practically paedophilic.

In general men are physically attracted to women who resemble (as far as possible) attractive 22-year-old women. Padeophiles are attracted to pre-pubescent girls. It's far more likely that he was attracted to a 16-year-old because she resembles a 22-year-old ideal than because she resembles a 10-year-old ideal.

Years ago I was with someone 17 years older, he was lovely and we split up, but it wasn't the age difference that was the issue. Some years after that I married a man of a similar gap in age. He and i divorced after a couple of years. Age difference wasn't the concern, he just turned into a complete arse. So it's more about compatibility and the individuals involved, IMO.

Anyone ever role play daddy/daughter trying to find that safety?

My partner is 56 and I'm 36. We have a nine month old baby. And yes, I am fully aware of the fact that my 60's will be just me. But it's worth the time we have together now. We are happy now and that's all that matters. Definitely going to watch the programme.

In general men are physically attracted to women who resemble (as far as possible) attractive 22-year-old women. Padeophiles are attracted to pre-pubescent girls. It's far more likely that he was attracted to a 16-year-old because she resembles a 22-year-old ideal than because she resembles a 10-year-old ideal

What the hell would a 48yo man have in common with a 16yo kid?

What about bag of spanners (mick jagger)? Both him and his pal have kids with women in their 30's, and they are really old.

I find men who only date much younger women creepy.
Like George Clooney, when he was in his 40s he never dated a woman in her 40s. His wife is 17 years younger. So it's not the age gap per se, but being attracted only to much younger women.

Well then.

This thread has brought out the creeps

my husband is 17 years older than me... most of my partners have been older... I just find older men more attractive in general (not always) tend to find they look more like men.... tend to also find they are more on the same wavelength in regards to how they want a relationship to be
Obviously theres dickheads of any age and lovely guys at any age but in general I always found older guys had gotten to the point of actually valuing or putting effort into a relationship, less paranoid and insecure as well.... although as ive said im sure there are bastards out there in a variety of ages.
And I like to talk to someone whos actually had life experiences...

I dont find age gaps over the age of consent weird at all.... because people all want different things from relationships and some people with large gaps do work very well together because either their experiences support and help each other or they can sometimes be going through the same things despite the gap.... I know with my husband we were actually at a very similar stage in our lives and had a very similar idea of what we wanted despite the gap...
I dont think its as simple as 'men like young women either'.... people always assume that about my husband, that he must just love me because he bagged a young woman.... but before me everyone he went out with was actually older than him including his ex of 15 years who was nearly 25 years older than him!!! (although they did eventually split up because of the age gap and the fact that he would never have been able to have children which he wanted and she had gotten to a stage in her life where she didnt want to do the things that he did)
It hasnt actually got that much to do with the way someone looks

There was 20 years between my parents. They were very happy until my dad died at 80. It has, of course left my mum with a large slice of her life alone.

This happened to me grandparents. One died at 65, the other is nearly 90. They were the same age. It's not just age gap relationships that suffer from this.

has anyone experienced or come across an age gap the other way around? woman 10-20 years older than man?

Clairetree1 some good friends of mine in answer to your question. She is 17 years older then him. Marriage has been up and down but no more than any other, and they have been married for over 27/8 years now.

My first boyfriend was 41 when I was 17 :-)