To take an hour or more to get going in a morning

[Mitzimaybe]

I'm a night owl, not a lark. I'm better some days than others but, most days, when I first get up I kind of stagger around like a zombie for a while. It takes me quite a while (and usually some caffeine) to turn into a human. Consequently I always allow at least an hour between when I get up and when I have to leave the house, usually more.

My husband, on the other hand, takes about 15 minutes from getting up to leaving the house. To be fair, he has his shower before bed and I prefer to shower in a morning, also I see to the cats which he doesn't have to do, so obviously that takes me longer.

My boss at work has told me it's not normal to take more than 5-10 minutes to become fully functional in a morning and that I should talk to my doctor about it. I think that's ridiculous. AIBU or is he?

I hate waking up. Hate it. But unless I'm hungover, I'm out the door in 20mins and awake as soon as I decide 'that's it, you have to get up'.

Maybe you're low on iron?

I get up at 7 and leav the hpuse at 8.30 with my daughter of 9 years and still feel like i need a rocket up my .....nose

I think it is normal for some people. Everyone is different. I take a long time to get going in the morning because I’m just not a morning person and my body clock is set to work best in the evening/nighttime.

My only concern about this is whether your boss is making some not so subtle indications that they’d rather you be in earlier/not be late... are you out of step with the rest of the office? It shouldn’t be this way, but in some workplaces you’ll be thought poorly of if the culture is to be in and working early and you’re coming in later than everyone else!

Totally normal to take a while in the morning, I leave myself an hour as it takes that long with showering, hair washing, makeup, clothes and breakfast. But if I needed to be at work earlier I’d be setting my alarm earlier to get all of that done sooner and be at work.

Does the boss have any managerial responsibility over you?

I'm the lone owl in an office of larks. Which means my boss loves me, because I'm often the only one still there at 5! I do my best work at 3am

An hour to be ready to leave the house seems OK. The only concern would be if you have changed in recent months, and feel different say after half an hour than you did before.

Surely as long as you are always on time for work and 'fully functional' if you are driving, it is of any concern of your boss?

I think I am a little like you, husband moans at me as my alarm does wake him up in fairness he normally goes back to sleep straight after though! But i like a little faff on mumsnet or facebook or just generally wondering round the house etc hate having to get up and go straight to work

I've never been a morning person, but having kids forced me to be!

I barely spend any time getting myself ready these days due to sorting kids out/tidying their rooms. I give myself an hour for the three of us to get up, ready, breakfasts, cleaning house, do all packed lunches and hair night before.

I don't have the luxury of relaxing cuppas or long baths of a morning. I drink my coffee on the go.

It was different pre kids. I was up and out in about 45 mins. I miss being able to spend that time just on me (and my cat) a few bowls to wash up so enjoy the peace and time for just you!

Everyone is different but it is none of your boss' business unless you are late.