To pack a suitcase in DS's bedroom?

[mockorangey]

We're going on holiday at the weekend (me, DH, DS and DD). DH got the two big suitcases out of the loft and put them in our bedroom. I opened out the suitcases to start packing, but as our bedroom isn't very big, I put one of them in DS's room where there is plenty of floor space. At bedtime last night, DH asked me to move the suitcase out of DS's room as we shouldn't be dumping stuff in there, it's not fair on him and invades his space.

I'm a bit annoyed at the suggestion that I dump stuff anywhere. I never just dump stuff in DS's room, if anything I'm the one that keeps it clean and tidy! I don't see the harm in packing in there since its only for a couple of days, and DS is coming on holiday too so it's his stuff I'll be packing. I could put both suitcases in our bedroom, but would have to climb on the bed to get around them, not to mention I have the laundry baskets in there too. DS is almost 4 by the way, if it's relevant.

Put the suitcase on the floor next to DHs side of the bed.

Your DH's point of view would never have occurred to me in this context. DS is part of the family. He got to share in the whole experience of going on holiday, including having some of the piles of clothes/suitcases in his room a couple of days before leaving.

I'd see your DH's POV a bit more if it were a question of using DS's room for general storage, but even then you do what you have to do. We do manage to keep our stuff out of DS's room in general, but I would nick a cupboard back if I had to. It's a sort of dividing line between "you're small, we're big, you don't have rights" and "you're part of the family, this is what the family needs".

Yep, dump it right next to his bed, so he has to climb over it. What a bizarre request.

Dump it ON his side of the bed so he has to sleep on the floor. Then while he’s asleep dump all your clothes on him. He’s being a prick

Your dh is a d. H.

If it’s a suitcase for DS’s stuff anyway I don’t get the issue. It’s hardly “dumping stuff” and as for “invading his space” . I’m sure DS won’t bat an eyelid at having a suitcase in his room for a couple of days before going away.

Your Dh is mad

Before we go on holiday there is stuff everywhere, in everybody's room. No one has ever complained and my DCs are both teens now.

What an odd thing to get annoyed about, I hope your DH is packing his own stuff and helping with the kids packing too

Why is it taking you so long to pack? Its only two suitcases.

Well DH can do his and dc packing now, that’s lovely.

I think the correct response would have been? 'What are you on about?'.

He moaned about a suitcase being left on childs bedroom floor for a couple of days so you could pack for holiday??????

What a cock.

Your DH is a nutbucket! I'd say "don't be so daft, I am packing not dumping" then carry on as you were!

I'm putting money on DS trying to SLEEP in the big case!

what a weird comment, of course he's completely BU.

Why is it taking you so long to pack? Its only two suitcases.
what a strange comment too, I always pack the weekend before we go on holiday, I am not home or have enough time during the week.

Your DH is being unreasonable but I wonder why? Did his parents not allow him any privacy or personal space when he was young?

You have two choices, either put the suitcases in a place that will massively inconvenience your DH and see if that changes his mind or tell him that your DS will have to tolerate the inconvenience for a short while.

He's being weird. Ignore him.

Or hand over packing duties to him and let him sort it out.

Yes, I wondered if this was something to do with the DHs childhood. Were his parents hoarders and/or use his room for storage to disproportionality benefit other rooms in the house?

But like PPs say, the reality is that the whole family has to share the incovenience of a bit of disruption in the run up to holidays with packing etc.

Ooh I like @BarbaraofSevillle's suggestion, except I'd put the suitcase on his side of the bed, not on the floor. Sorted.

Leave it where it is, it's there for a reason. Silly man, is he always so controlling ?

FFS Really?? Ours were on the living floor for two days prior to going!🤷🏻‍♀️😂

Also, this is so creepily controlling that I can't get my head around why anyone would say it.

I think this is a complete non-issue so take no notice.

Your DH's response is odd. Unless there is a backstory we're unaware of
It would have made more sense if he'd said he was worried DS would try to sleep in it and get stuck. and when I say more sense it would still have been odd

DS is going too so I don't see the problem.