Should you stay in relationship

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Just that really ... should you stay married to someone if you are no longer in love with them?

Should you stay married with someone because they don't want the marriage to end?

Should your happiness be overshadowed by your wife / husband happiness? (Because they wouldn't be happy if you left)

DH.. is this you?!

No. Not at all. Unless they’re terminally ill and don’t have long left, then suck it up and support them. You aren’t doing anyone a favour long-term by encouraging this kind of emotional dependence.

Well I yhi k it really depends on the context. In general no. But there are situations where the unhappy spouse does owe it to the other to put them first (obviously very rare). Then there is the question of third parties. Ate their children involved who would suffer? Or maybe elderly/very sick relatives who would be made very unhappy? Would it screw both of you over finacially? Are there immigration matters to take into consideration? Then there is the question of why the unhappy spouse is so unhappy. Are they being abused or have they simply fallen out of love?

I am just wondering if people expect couples to stay together because they made a commitment to each other.

But one fell out of love ... but the other still loves the other and doesn't want the relationship to end.

Is the person who fell out of love being unfair because they have left and want to move on without the other person ...?

No, you shouldn’t stay with anyone if you are unhappy but you need to ensure you are fair and meet all obligations as necessary.

My mil expects this and so does my arshole husband.
I'm meant to ignore the fact he broke our vows and had an affair.

I should just take him back and forgive and forget apparently.
Well no! This doormat in a no longer in use. Find another.
Do what you feel is right. If you don't love them then leave.
For me love is not enough.