AIBU to say Prejudice

[ceilingdaisy]

Watching the show 'Bride and Prejudice' AIBU to think the Asian lady who announces...he's white and we're Asian...then goes on to say her daughter should be with 'their own kind' and other basically racist comments. If my daughter was marrying an Asian man, and I was to say 'We're white and he's not' (which I NEVER would btw) the backlash would be incredible. Why is it ok for other races to do this...also (ranting head on now) why is it ok for the deplorable N word to be used by certain races as a term of endearment to each other and in black music it's everywhere. I'm confused!

Some people say that men can't be sexist, black people (in the Western World) can't be racist, people in wheelchairs can't be disablist as all theses -ists (and there's an increasing number of them everday) don't extent to anyone with 'priviledge'.

Therefore straight, white, wealthy men need to put up and shut up whereas a one-legged black lesbian can say whatever zir likes.

Of course this is nonsense. I completely disagree with this faux-intellectual standpoint. It's always racist or sexist or what have you but the difference is causing offence. I think I would say the n word when singing a song but wouldn't use it in a joke or conversation. I think there are more times when a black person can say it and it not be offensive than me. The same for fag or similar anti-gay slurs etc.

To address your other point, I think that usually people do like to be with their own kind. A basic example is how many people (on here) say they could never be with a Tory. People like to have things in common and skin colour often shows culture and cultural values.

I don’t think the program says that this kind of prejudice is ok at all. Quite the opposite, I think it paints most of the parents in a very bad light.

And aside from anything else, it’s very obviously fake. The Mauritian lady’s issue is with the fact her son in law is transgender. The producers just make her stress the race differences so they can then edit it to make a ‘sudden twist’.

Your point about the n word is a completely separate point. As far as I’m concerned it’s pretty simple - I have been told that certain words are offensive so I don’t use them. If people use them affectionately amongst friends then fine but I’m not going to join in. Lots of friends use words like bitch, cow, ho towards each other but wouldn’t dream of calling a stranger or colleague a bitch. To me it’s the same thing, just social convention.

Why do you WANT to use the n word?

I think you'll find her biggest problem was her son in law to be is transgender but she knew him before he transitioned and is a little confused, taken aback, whatever you want to term it.

I think the he's white isn't such a big issue for her but it's more acceptable in her eyes than saying I don't want a transgender son in law.

I know a lot of Mauritians ( I'm sure that's where she's from) and they have no problem with inter racial marriages. Although I'm aware that that's just those I know and not everyone.

I'm just musing though...

Oh and also, I think the ‘backlash’ has been pretty terrible. Parents of the gay couple - wouldn’t piss on them if they were on fire.

I imagine a fair few people have found them in social media and given them abuse.

Obviously I dont want to use the word, my point is in the fight for equality for all races, sexes and whatever else. We (or me, as I dont know your background) are so careful not to offend and be multiculturally aware of all around us, but a person of the same race can publically broadcast their negativitly....double standards and thats what is wrong.