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AIBU?

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AIBU to not wait on him?

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Funkyslippers · 20/06/2018 13:33

For reasons I won't go into, my brother (age 50) has nowhere to live for the next few weeks. He's able to stay with friends etc near where he lives but is stuck for this weekend so I said he could stay with us Fri - Sun. I've had 1 weeks' notice.

He is however extremely lazy. He's never, to my knowledge, cooked a meal in his life and lives permanently on shop bought sandwiches, pasties, takeaways etc. He is morbidly obese as a result which does make getting around difficult. However, I am rushed off my feet with 2 LOs at the best of times and to have to provide 3 meals a day plus clearing up for an extra adult doesn't exactly fill me with joy. We're not particularly close though we do text each other most days. We have nothing in common.

I also have plans for the weekend with my LOs which might not be his cup of tea so don't want to cancel. I'm thinking as he's a grown man he could sort out most of his own food and entertain himself? He is capable of walking to the local shop as it's what he does most days where he lives anyway.

I don't want him to think I'm ignoring him but my weekends spending quality time with with LOs are very important to me. AIBU?

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sleeveface · 20/06/2018 13:39

YANBU. Just tell him you have plans with the dc over the weekend so he can sort himself out for food. Just make it clear from the start so there's no potential issues.

kissthealderman · 20/06/2018 13:48

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TroubledLichen · 20/06/2018 13:51

YANBU, get on with your weekend and let him sort himself out. If I was doing dinner for the family I’d make extra for him and set a place at the table but that’s absolutely as far as I’d go.

BlueBug45 · 20/06/2018 13:51

Oh and tell your brother to clean up after himself. If he doesn't the next time he needs somewhere to crash you can refuse him.

Myheartbelongsto · 20/06/2018 13:54

Why is this even a thread.

Just tell him what you've said here and job done.

expatinscotland · 20/06/2018 13:58

YANBU

Funkyslippers · 20/06/2018 15:49

Thanks guys!

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