Body shaming women, by other women? Come on MN!

[Louise322]

I think it's a feminist issue so it's sad to see other women scrutinise and nit pick.

AIBU to say it's really sad to see? I'm not one of those "Women empower women and let's all just praise and never say anything not nice, blah blah blah" but this is on another level.

I've seen lots of examples on MN recently, a place where I thought people weren't so cruel to the body parts of other females.

Few examples being that Instagram fitness Aussie, a random troll putting up a picture of a young girl and everyone tearing the picture into shreds, and even the constant threads moaning about something, anything, Megan Markle says, does or wears.

What's going on MN?!

There are threads like this, but my experience of them is that the perpetrators are called out on it pretty quickly. It is depressing that it happens, though.

Sometimes I think that women are their worst enemies.

*their own

It's not just an MN thing, is it?
Some people are just arseholes.

No one has body shamed Meghan that I've seen. Some people have criticised the change in her dress style since she joined the royal family and are saying it's a shame she can't dress the way she used to and that really suited her.

I'm not sure about the Aussie picture you give as an example as I didn't see it. However I am with you regarding the constant remarks about people in the public eye.. however a lot of them do make rods for their own backs because of their publicity/self promoting ways.
I absolutely despise all of those magazines where weight and appearance is the only subject matter and it seems that they make their money out of critiquing people (mainly women).
We need to ask ourselves why we care so much!
I really try to minimise the exposure of this sort of thing for my young and impressionable daughter.
I think to we need to respect one another and recognise that we are all different and have different tastes.

I think the point was on the Aussie fitness girl picture, that some of us don't see a young woman with an almost unachievable body shape unless you want to live in a gym (and it doesn't matter if you actually like that shape or not), pouting and posing over social media in your undies is empowering to our daughters.

For me personally, that's not body shaming and it certainly isn't empowering to our upcoming female generation. We as women are allowed to disagree that it's a positive image to young women.

I've never seen or heard a bad word uttered about MM.
Is all this happening on another planet.

I'm not sure about the Aussie picture you give as an example as I didn't see it.

Seriously?

That thread is a train wreck.

laughing at silly outfits is allowed and should be done more often. That way we might one day kill off the horrible fashion 'industry' and be able to buy fit for purpose clothes.

the body under it is not for discussion.

Fuckpants - honestly didn't see it, I'll have a look now..
I do hate the way we constantly scrutinise the body under the clothes! Nothing wrong with a conversation about style which to be honest, is what I'm used to on MN.

It is a thing though isn't it. Some people are just utterly unpleasant. Like the woman who started a thread a while ago saying she was fat, she was sick of dieting but just wanted to look nice and was asking advice on clothes for fat people. She didn't want advice on diet. But she sure got it anyway, along with fat being unattractive, unhealthy, men don't like it and so on and so on. The thread was completely derailed by fat haters. Its as if some can't bear others to be happy and they want to rip them down. Arseholes.

No sorry i don't agree, I'd rather see criticism aimed at the men and women who constantly self promote their bodies on social media, putting a disproportionate amount of energy into their physical appearance.

Why should we be encouraging the obsessional need to self glorify, the never ending cycle of selfies, the posing and pouting, and the endless need to be praised and revered. It's not healthy and it serves no purpose. In twenty years time we'll probably look back at the "selfie" era in horror. Vanity and narcissism should never be encouraged.

But it's not just those celebs.

People were so quick to rip apart that picture of the unknown woman, posted by a troll who probably hates her in real life/is jealous and was rubbing his/her hands at all the nasty comments towards her body type!

I couldn't quite believe it. It was obviously a troll posting a picture of someone that wasn't them. What if that person, who'd clearly just had a baby if they had a tiny overhang, saw it? They'd be devastated

Not seen Meghan Markke body shamed on here. I have posted about her clothes, I loved her wedding dress, and the beige cape dress she wore. The Oscar dlr dress she wore at the weekend was too big - fact and it didn't suit her.

The fitness blogger - well from that angle it did look like an unachievable body shape and the suggestions of Photoshop or surgery didn't seem out of the question. And I wouldn't call that body shaming at all.

What a pity you didn't mention or the thread where a poster was referring to a teenage daughter as fat and his she was called out for her choice of words and lack of support.

Louise322 That was beyond awful, what an utter bitch. Her face was beautiful, the poster was clearly green eyed jealous of her.