posted this in relationships but think its better suited here,
FIL phoned last night.
We havent seen him for 3 months and he hasnt phoned for nearly 2 months, he didnt visit or phone dd on her birthday, he knows she has been in hospital but no phonecall nothing.
He picks up his non biological grandchild every weekend, he is obsessed with him but ignores his other grandchildren, not just ours, dh sisters and brothers as well so dh decided he wasnt bothering any more, so he called last night:
he starts by accusing DH of falling out with him so DH says well you can always ring me, then he starts saying are you having problems with jenk
then he asked to speak to me, he said
"whats wrong with DH" so i said nothing why.
"theres something wrong he wont tell me" so i said have you asked him and he said yes and then he said " are you two having problems"
so i said NO.
he then spoke to dh and asked him why he doesnt bring kids down and dh said you know dd has severe asthma and you all smoke but you can come up here.
then he said i believe you have a new car what have you done with your old one and dh says i still have it and he says " you dont have to be flash you know splashing your money around on two cars"
i cant stand this man, he didnt stick up for dh last year over his uncle and he has the nerve to phone up and accuse us of having marital problems!!!!
he,s coming up tomorrow and im dreading it.
he will sit here and slag off everything dh does or says and dh just lets him and i want to get hold of him and shake him and say dont let him talk to you like that.
i dont want him to come up but i dont want to say that to dh.
he causes trouble and dh gets depressed for days afterward whenever he visits, how can i get him to see that?
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to not want FIL to visit?
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jenk1 · 23/05/2007 14:09
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