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I need help with a work situation and changing work

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BWrose · 19/06/2018 14:18

I was about 7 years old when I knew what I wanted to do when I grew up - a nurse minding babies was what I wanted to do. As I got older I learned the name of the profession - midwifery.

Unfortunately, I performed poorly in school and science was one of my poor subjects so studying nursing was out of the question.

After school, I did do a course for about two years. In my 20s, I drifted in and out from different jobs. I had work in a shop, I worked in hotels and a factory at one stage. I wasn't ever happy with my jobs. Not because it wasn't nursing, there was always something wrong with the jobs. For example, working in hotels, I worked in the accommodation department serving rooms. It was work that I liked and I helped one hotel gain extra stars due to perfectionism in my work. I didn't like it because so many guests had so little respect - walking into rooms that were trashed at times, walking into rooms where bins were never used, even going into one room where the toilet wasn't used and someone used the bath instead. Weddings were always the worst. The guests would be hungover and stuck in their rooms where you can't get in to service them and there would be a lot of pressure from management.

Them days are behind me. I always enjoyed babysitting and I babysat for many different families. In my mid 20s, I decided to do a child care course. It was something that I very much enjoyed.

I've been working in a private role for many years and It was something that I very much I enjoyed for a long time. However, it's not working out for me anymore. I always enjoyed helping the family I work for, but it's gone beyond what I ever signed up to do. The days are long and hard with too much of a load on my back - look after the kids, help their development, cook the meals, do laundry (even the parents laundry), do a general tidy up. It's the amount of hours that I'm putting in - I'm neglecting myself and my own personal life and relationships. I'm not getting paid properly either. It was always like this. It's extortion really - trying to get as much out from me for as little as possible. I used to like the parents I work for too but not I see a lot of greed and selfishness with them. They are placing more of an emphasis on their social life's now too. It isn't a few hours down in the local pub on a Saturday night, it's complete weekends away and not even once in a blue moon. There's something going on nearly every weekend for them. Which means I'm the one left holding the baby so to speak. I could go on an on and on and on.

I need to leave this job and find something better I need to start looking out for myself. I will never be able to afford my own mortgage or to have a baby of my own if I continue on like this.

I need a job where I can clock in, in the morning, don't he work and hours, clock back out and go home and do my own laundry instead of someone elses and get paid a proper wage appropriate to the work and I hours that I put in.

I have no idea where to start and what to do. Going back to college to study full time is out of the question. That's not going to pay the bills. I need something that will pay me a decent wage. I want to get out from childcare altogether. I wouldn't mind trying my hand at office or secretary work.

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UpstartCrow · 19/06/2018 14:22

If you could learn to touch type and pass CLAIT, it would help you look for office work. Are there any evening classes where you live?

Els1e · 19/06/2018 14:26

What about working as a health care assistant in either NHS or private sector home? The skills you currently use will make you a good candidate. Then take a part time course to learn office skills.

Bombardier25966 · 19/06/2018 14:31

CLAIT is no longer being offered by the examining board. Not sure what is replacing it...

UpstartCrow · 19/06/2018 14:32

Oh thats a shame. They scrapped ECDL as well.

Yecartmannew · 19/06/2018 14:34

Callcentre? They are not all bad. i work in one a couple of evenings a week (for my fun money) and I enjoy the work, but mostly I like the fact that the second I clock off my job is done and I don't have to think about it until the next shift.
You will get full training so you don't need any previous experience.

BWrose · 19/06/2018 14:46

I looked into health care assistance but that's out of the question, for now anyways. First of all, I will need my own car for going to and from houses and for working errands for clients.

I can't afford a car. Not right now anyways.

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MyOtherUsernameisaPun · 19/06/2018 14:47

You would need secretarial training to be a secretary - is that an option for you?

If not, many offices hire admin staff who are less specialist than secretaries but it can be a good route in. In my firm (law) we had a girl who started as an admin assistant and did that for a year or so, then filled a secretarial role and was given training on the job.

BWrose · 19/06/2018 14:48

Yecartmannew,

Unfortunately I'm in the UK. I remember a scandal in the news that so long ago about call centre work about people working in call centres being docked pay if they go to the toilet. That's probably going to be out for me.

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IamtheDevilsAvocado · 19/06/2018 14:58

Why not try for university... You could do access to midwifery course?

Yes, it's expensive but you'll be paying this back out of a reasonable salary?...MSE says to think of it as a graduate tax.

And repayments only increase as your salary does.... It's written off at 50 anyway...

Don't do yourself down.

BlueSapp · 19/06/2018 15:00

unfortunately, you'll probably have to take a hit regarding your wages if you want to pursue a different career, that's usually the sacrifice, so that you will eventually end up with a better earning potential, If you are stuck and you need to move on you will have very little choice tbh there is no magic jobs that pays loads of money for no experience.

IamtheDevilsAvocado · 19/06/2018 15:01

In my experience its the only way out of exploitative jobs is education.... Be a professional that is always needed and at a reasonable salary too!

MilkTwoSugarsThanks · 19/06/2018 15:04

Have you tried contacting recruitment agencies? They're not just for temporary jobs and you can arrange to talk to someone about your CV and what might be a good fit for you.

Monr0e · 19/06/2018 15:05

You could look for hca work within a local hospital? Then if you ever did decide to do further training in health care at a later date this would stand you in good stead.

GirlsBlouse17 · 19/06/2018 15:06

Are you good with numbers? You could work as an accounting assistant, study AAT and train and work your way up in a finance dept

Haberpop · 19/06/2018 15:08

HCA in a hospital setting would allow you time to study and get a qualification. How about becoming an MCA on a postnatal ward? In my experience it is the MCAs who get a real chance to spend time with new mums and their babies.

Els1e · 19/06/2018 15:13

If you work in one setting, either home or hospital, you won’t need a car. The National Careers Service might be able to help.

HuntIdeas · 19/06/2018 15:30

A bit different but can you see if any companies are still recruiting for staff at holiday / kids clubs over the summer? Maybe in a holiday club in this country or a kids club at a hotel abroad?

HuntIdeas · 19/06/2018 15:30

Or maybe something like camp America?

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