To feel like DH is messing with my emotions over DC3?

[CountrysideGirl]

DH is adamant he doesn’t want another baby but won’t use contraception (withdrawal only). Ok so that has worked for us for 3 years but every month I think there coukd be a chance I could get pregnant. I would like another baby. I don’t know if he’s in denial about it or is just being an idiot! Thoughts?!

If neither of you are using contraception then you must be prepared for pregnancy. If you both decide not to have any more children, then why can't he get the snip if he doesn't want to use contraception?
If you want another baby and he doesn't, then that's a whole other conversation you need to have asap

Withdrawal is absolutely not an effective form of contraception. Don't participate in this method if you don't want a baby.

The red flag here for me would be if (likely when) you do fall pregnant will be blame you?

Personally I couldn't handle this "in between" emotionally if I wanted another child.

I couldn't live like that! Can you talk to Jim about it?

He's not the only one that can use contraception so you're both responsible if you get pregnant but I also don't think he can be pissed off if it happens since he presumably knows you all are using no other form of birth control besides withdrawal.

I don't see how he's "messing with your emotions" though. There are loads of different types of birth control You can use.

And do you want another pregnancy, and would you be happy to have another baby when your dh doesn't want them?

If you carry on relying on the withdrawl method, chances are you'll get pregnant. If you don't want that to happen then either you need to use contraception, or he uses contraception or you don't have sex.

You are both being ridiculously irresponsible. He doesn't want another baby? Then you use contraception and it is up to you as a couple to decide what contraception that it. You are both being total idiots. How are you going to feel if you get pregnant and he still doesn't want it?

My husband keeps saying he doesn’t want another baby whereas I would happily have one.

I have asked him to get a vasectomy but he won’t and has said we will just use conforms. I said that’s fine if it’s a risk he’s prepared to take.

There’s no way I would rely on the withdrawal method - the thought of getting pregnant in such a careless manner and knowing my DH didn’t want it would terrify me.