First time poster.
I really don’t know whether I’m being unreasonable or not.
I’ve been with my SO for 7 years this month and we’ve been through some pretty tough stuff in the beginning of our relationship that cemented where we are today (don’t want to give details as it would be outing but health issues on my part that may have sent someone else running).
Recently I have been thinking more and more about how I would like to get married sooner rather than later & being practical I know that a wedding takes at least 6 months to a year to plan, so pushes the date even further away. I have had these discussions with my partner and every time I bring it up he assures me he does want to get married but not yet maybe in a few years and doesn’t want to rush it but can’t really give any other reason apart from that. If he could give a soiled excuse then I would back off. I know it’s not helpful keep bringing it up constantly as it will just push him further away and I don’t want to seem needy but I just can’t help asking for what I want. I have the feeling he still thinks he’s in his ‘youth’ and this would mean officially growing up.
I don’t know what to do - it’s difficult to push it to the back of my mind and move on especially when it’s something I really want. Other than this everything else is generally perfect and I’m happy and pretty easy going other than this and have said that I don’t mind a small wedding or even eloping.
I think what is annoying me more is that recently a few of our friends have gotten pregnant and we’ve talked about it but I’m not ready yet and although he doesn’t particularly want a baby he doesn’t mind - so he’s ok with having a baby because our friends are but can’t commit to marriage?