Too much information for Year 6? (sex ed)

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DS had his Year 6 sex education talk today, delivered by the school nurse - the boys separately from the girls. It covered puberty and the basics of sexual intercourse, then questions were encouraged. One of the boys asked "Are threesomes possible?" According to DS the nurse went into detail in her reply about who does what to whom for the scenarios of 2 men + 1 women and 2 women + 1 men. AIBU to be a bit , bearing in mind this is Year 6? Perhaps I'm naive but I would have expected the reply to be quite brief along the lines of "yes, sometimes that happens, but it's not the standard way of having sexual intercourse". I'm wondering if my DS is having me on and repeating something someone told him in the playground instead.

That does seem a bit unlikely

Seems highly unlikely

I cant Imagine the nurse going into detail like that no. Also the teachers sit in on those chats and I can’t imagine the teacher would let it happen either. Bit concerned about the 10/11 year old who knows what a threesome is though!

But obviously there is no straightfkrwars way for a threesome to happen in the way there is with a heterosexual couple. Either the nurse is an idiot or your son is telling you porky pies.

Definitely not appropriate or standard. Perhaps there was some playground talk and your son has got confused.

I really doubt her answer was any different from what you'd expect... reckon he's pulling your leg!

Seems very unlikely. I remember as a kid one of my friends trying to convince us that at her previous school the sex Ed had involved a couple actually having sex in front of the class as a demonstration - she was a bit of a fantasist generally, but kids that age do talk a lot of shit!

What sort of details was he able to repeat?

I consider myself to be quite liberal with the information I give to my year 6’s but even I wouldn’t do that.

Agree- seems unlikely and, if a child did ask this, I would be concerned about safeguarding issues.

To be fair when my ds in yr 6 told me on the way home from school he had sex ed that day and he had learned that there were 3 orifaces he could use I nearly crashed the car!!

Well, it's not an answer I would expect from a school nurse, and, personally, I would need to clarify with the class teacher what was actually said.

The more I think about it the more I'm convinced he was testing me with some information he's been told in the playground to see how I would react. I'll ask him about it again later. There is a boy in his year who knows more than he ought too, and he's been sharing it. I've already spoken to the Head about that.

I'd bloody hope not! I'd be asking the school though. And I'd want to know who he had actually heard this information from. 10/11 year olds shouldn't know about threesomes, especially in detail. I'd actually be concerned that another child was being exposed to something they shouldn't be.

I agree that this sounds like schoolyard shenanigans.

I mean, no nurse would consider leaving out the possibility of 3 men or 3 women

No chance, I've been in lots of year 5 and 6 sex Ed and this wouldn't have happened.

Maybe he's curious about what he's heard on the playground

Hilarious!
Maybe your DS wanted to ask you but did it in this convoluted way?

I'm shocked that he wasn't too embarrassed to talk to you about that

Didn't happen

There were very likely 3 or more adults in the room during this talk. I very much doubt the question would have been allowed by all of those adults to be tackled in the way your son says. But the playground conversation after always includes a few children boasting their inappropriate level of knowledge on the subject, particularly on topics that got skirted over if they did get asked about. I imagine this has come from a friend of your son's filling the blanks.

He's winding you up

My friend's DS came home from primary school one day and told her the teacher had taught them all about anal sex. She stormed in the next morning to complain and - you've guessed it - was a little embarrassed to find he'd made it up.

My mum used to be the lead for sex education at her primary school (mainly because she was the only teacher that could reliably say penis and vagina without giggling!). She used to reckon that the questions always took you off in strange directions. Such as "but how do Siamese twins happen?" But even she never had that one happen. I would very much doubt the school nurse would have gone into the detail implied of the acts suggested, even if someone had asked.

ShapelyBingoWing I thought you were explaining threesomes when I read your first sentence

As a teacher I can't see this happening.

I have a friend who taught yr 5 about 11 years ago and she told me some of the questions she'd been asked and the replies she gave. They made me blush and feel really embarrassed on behalf of everyone involved. I would certainly not insist this incident 'never happened'!